What Men Truly Desire From Women

  • To be seen through their flaws 
  • To be forgiven Mutual trust 
  • To be felt with compassion 
  • To not be judged by their past, but by their actions in the now 
  • Co-creation 
  • Freedom to BE their truth 
  • Respected and revered 
  • Believed in

And let’s be real for a moment, these are basic HUMAN needs and really can only be met in a healthy way when we reciprocate, are willing to do our work, and open to receiving. We need to begin with ourselves, we ultimately are the common denominator in our own lives.

I know I was in mine and needed to shift internally before I unconsciously or consciously demanded more from others.

I recall in my relationships I once demanded a great deal but wasn’t prepared to give. I was arrogant, entitled, and stubborn. This caused me to not only lack common relationship sense, but it also placed me spaces of resentment, projection, and blame.

Everything that went wrong in my life was someone else’s fault. Never mine. I would get so angry at others because “no one ever understood me” or “I wasn’t respected enough”. Truth is I wasn’t behaving in a way where others could match that.

And… When they did I did not deem myself worthy enough to receive that love. Oh did I have to do some deeper work around my unresolved trauma and self-worth to all of the others in? I began my journey of awareness, I hired coaches, sought spiritual healers, read, meditated, let go of, dealt with my trauma, did extensive breath and somatic work and healed my relationships to my parents, past and self and much more.

Easy? No. Worth it? Yes. Two questions for you…

1… What are YOU willing to release in order to become the best version of you?

2… What do you most need in relationship?

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



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