Intimacy – A Dance Between Lovers

“The intimate and blissful dance between taking & being taken allows us to know ourselves at such depth”. This is contrast dynamics/polarity dynamics & the song of the masculine & the feminine, which resides within all of us.

Depth of courage, knowing & feeling is required here. Mutual respect & the willingness to be all that you can without inhibition & restriction.

To be taken, ravaged in connection, safety, trust & security implies a deep bonding & importantly a deep surrendering that takes place between two sovereign yet united beings.

It is in the surrendering that we allow ourselves to experience the wonder that is unified intimacy. It is in surrendering to each moment you are immersed in love, pleasure, presence, openness & truth that we grow together. We fear pleasure so much because we fear our power.

In surrendering you allow yourself to be TAKEN on a journey of self-discovery – on a journey of open discovery.

In this sincere & unadulterated exploration we lose ourselves, our identity, our baggage, our preconceived ideas, limiting models & unhealthy layers of resistance. It’s scary to lose who we think we are.

Here, we can be taken, we can take and we can flow & oscillate between this intimate & profound ‘taking’.

To allow another to take us is to be fully immersed in trust, reverence, respect & presence. To take is an honorable & divine responsibility.

It is an honour to be given permission to take, to express the highest aspects of our faculties & being in this way.

Those taking at that moment must be deeply aware of this honour bestowed upon them. To hold one’s heart with deep care & softness. This taking energy is masculine or “go” energy (this resides in all of us – the masculine takes).

To listen to the whispers of guidance through the minutia in a movement that the beautiful body gives us. To be deeply attentive to the wholeness of the other allows one to take with prowess, completeness & love.

To surrender to being taken requires our focus, alignment of the inner self & a willingness to give up what we think is ‘right & wrong’. To release old ideas in order to create space to experience the new, the profound, the cosmically wondrous.

Let go, to allow in. Go in, to feel it all. Be conscious, to be connected & be love to transcend the mundane.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



An Open Apology To The Feminine – PART II

Men, we are not less than for apologising. We are not weak, meek and passive. When we own who we are, we are liberated, empowered and free to grow and expand. Forgiveness (seeking or accepting) is expansive and is a sign of fucking strength.

Ravage The ‘Dark’

A message to all men…

Ravage, relish in and be fully present to all faces, sides and expressions of the feminine prowess and power. To be present to all that she is means you are willing to traverse the depths of being to truly know her and inturn, truly know yourself.

Strength In Men

Human sentience thrives on connection. All expressions of human thrive on caring, intimacy and reciprocal respect.

Men can be strong. Men can express strength and prowess and still hold compassion and understanding. Men can still be integrated and connected.

Go Deep To Go Far

There is so much superficial shit out there. The problem isn’t superficiality, the ‘puzzle’ (as opposed to the problem) is we remain in the superficial for too long. We are too scared to venture into the deep (we will come back around to this).

The superficial is actually healthy and a place where we can find common ground. Imagine being on a date – getting to know someone and your first question is: “so tell me your deepest childhood trauma”?

Ten Ways To Break Up Like A Boss

How does one break up with someone when one realizes that they’re not for you anymore? Now, when I say breaking up like a boss, what we’re talking about is breaking up in a way that respects them and respects you.

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