If you are grounded in higher self-worth within yourself, couldn’t you just be you? If you believed in what you offered and were confident and less attached to the outcome of how someone or something must be, why would you hide?
My relationship with my father from the beginning was challenging. I look back at my life and I see almost everything I did, how I did it, how I felt about myself, and how I gave and received the love that came from a place of seeking his approval and validation.
Fractured and fragmented by their own sense of not belonging, feeling rejected, and being isolated themselves. They turn to outward blame and assault to feel better and feel relief from their powerlessness. It doesn’t justify it, nor make it right… We heal through resilience and compassion. Lets’ delve in deeper…
Masculinity and femininity are not reserved solely for gender. They refer to universal sexual forces. Polarity within that either attracts or repels… And just because wild magnetic attraction exists doesn’t mean you should be romantically and deeply involved…
When we make excuses we negate responsibility and therefore defuse our power. This is unattractive and makes us as men untrustworthy.
Recently having facilitated hundreds of men through deep transformational and explorative work I realized profoundly that our excuses are holding us back from intimacy and connection – to be seen and to witness.
Your need for approval stems from your fear of rejection. Unconsciously seeking the need to be liked or loved by another and experiencing that approval means that you are not in a state of unworthiness, humiliation, “less than” or abandonment and this feels safer than the constant pursuit of someone else’s opinion defining you.
Secrets are like calluses upon our hearts. The more we keep, the more hardened we become…
I spent so many years hiding. Not trusting myself, doubting who I was, being so frustrated with the world and what I perceived to be a weakness that I lied about everything. I did not want to be seen as “weak”.
The vulnerability and “owning my shadow” card can be fickle. We pretend to be vulnerable and truthful by showing and owning our shadows openly or expressing one of MANY that we have. More often than not though, this is a deflection of what’s really ailing us at a deeper level that we fear intensely, so we unconsciously pretend to be courageous about this more minor pain/shadow, in order to avoid dealing with the greater beast that resides within…
The unavailable man is not only unavailable to you, but he is also unavailable to himself… Unavailability can be super evident or it can hide in the shadows. Your partner (mirror and extension of usually the father figure or archetype) will keep coming back into your life as a man that is emotionally unavailable, physically distant, a perpetual long-distance relationship, not prioritizing you, and much more.
Turn your sexual stimulation into “soul stimulation”. YES, please stimulate your physical sexuality AND elevate your soul through your sex.
If your soul embodies all of that which you and that ALL is, then your sex accesses the whole and unified experience that is you. In that moment of divine bliss, there is you, there is the other and there is a merging and blending into wholeness.