Biological sex and gender are more fixed and defined. However, self-identity is more fluid and subjective.
This is a controversial topic in this day and age. When we look at gonadal, hormonal, genetic, genital, and chromosomal sex and gender are we not more defined?
What appears to be more flexible is the way we see ourselves, internally and psychologically identify and desire others to see us.
Sacred sexual union is a bridge crossed to bring you to higher levels of consciousness and connection, not only with one another but with yourself.
Sexuality is key. It is a doorway to the higher realms of consciousness. As you redefine yourself and the way in which you love, see and define yourself, you will shift sexually as well.
Rise to that higher outlook – the reality that awaits you beyond your old wounds, beliefs, and fears. That is where the infinite nature of love and possibility will greet your heart with openness and freedom only once dreamt of. You simply need to venture beyond the unknown with complete surrender…
I see myself in fragility at times. My fragility presents as anger, attempting to protect my heart from being hurt and my vulnerabilities and insecurities from being seen. I trust less, fight more and am more frazzled, overwhelmed and confused. This is me in parts of my shadow.
Purely orgasmic orientated sex keeps us in a vicious and addictive cycle of emptiness and incompleteness that requires “refilling”.
The nature of reality shows us that one cannot exist without the other (duality – light and dark/good and evil). We may never “find” or create absolute “peace,” but that doesn’t mean we cannot do our best to strive for greater equity, deeper love, a more profound appreciation for difference and a truer reverence for ourselves and each other.
Most sex is just unconscious, mutual masturbation trying to relieve our pain and shame. Conscious sexuality is about the merging of ALL that we are and saying “here I am, take all of me, as I accept all of me and welcome all of you”…
In ancient shamanic traditions, the healer and the “sufferer” conjoin together to journey through the trauma where the shaman/healer deeply supports this releasing of terror in a profound and liberating way.
Hold her firmly, like the structure of a solid oak. That oak is unshaken by the wind, as is your integrity and capacity to hold for all of her.
That oak only shaped by the direction of its intention. Imagine your intention carrying the power of a thousand kings – trusted, revered and depended upon to be present.
In nurturing lovemaking, sex has the capacity to heal old trauma and wounds. As you witness each other in non-judging and vulnerable ways, the old may resurface to be released viscerally in a safe and supportive way.