Tapping Into Your Feminine

The internalized embodiment of feminine consciousness by man has been a welcoming change as it has allowed both men and women to see each other at greater depth. A more profound appreciation has transpired towards women and this has bridged the gap of isolating our differences.

Instead, we have been able to celebrate our differences and merge in a greater union. And whilst this development has helped us relate more profoundly, we as men have also lost parts of ourselves. I’m embracing this feminine consciousness, we have lost integral aspects of our masculinity.

Guilt and shame of past collective actions have almost had us reject the expressions of masculinity that the feminine also values. Sovereignty, healthy self-reliance, a structured sense of self, discipline, rugged connection to land, compassionate decisiveness, strength, pride and honour in being of value and much more.

We have shifted our focus to life preservation as opposed to life-giving energies. We have been asked to be softer and more receptive, yet these qualities as dominant within man are somewhat foreign to us. We can still be “non-receptive” and not be violent. We can be in the energetic of giving without being forceful.

The masculine carries potent yang giving energy. And the feminine potent yin receiving energy. There was a time not long ago where men were craving harder women, and women craving softer men. We seem to be realizing that this inverse dynamic is not necessarily the way…

In focusing solely on feminine qualities we have lost side with the “wild man” within. That primitive, sexual, connected sense of masculinity that is the pole to feminine sensuality and softness. Polarity creates attraction. Are we diminishing that through homogenizing each other?

Too much softness as men has deterred us from venturing into the shadows of our psyches. This means we are repressed and we don’t know ourselves. We feel lost and a man lost and not in purpose demagnetizes his value.

The journey of understanding our receptive side as men means we can nurture, empathize and understand at deeper resonant levels, but losing our masculine fire and fierceness presents a problem. This is an essential stage and knows that no stage of development is the final stop.

When we choose to focus on cultivating healthy masculine qualities of that is our core essence then naturally with a certain level of openness, we will tap into our expressive feminine in just the right doses for ourselves and our relationships.

This is the next evolution of man. But we cannot throw away our capacity for strong masculine posture – independence, self-trust, strength, honour, utility in the world. Whilst these qualities are not limited to masculinity or men, they flourish within the masculine paradigm.

Focus on your core essence and balance will become more available. And with honouring your truth and experiencing balance comes deeper relatability.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



On Death & Loneliness

There are times when I feel so disconnected from this place, I fee so isolated – like there is only me, I am in relation to nothing and all that I perceive is an illusion and projection of me…

We All Have Stories

We all have stories… We all have a past. Most of our pasts are less lopsided than we think.

Amidst the chaos, confusion and the volatility exists a place where there is at the least; some peace. My past and childhood at large weren’t pretty… Many of us share similar pasts.

The Great Divide

Space… The great divide. I am not speaking to the space we may know as outer space, the cosmos or the universe. I am referring to the space we require in relationships. We forget the utter importance of what space provides us.
Space is a bridge. Attraction, eroticism, connection and intimacy not only comes from closeness, but it comes from space, distance and a yearning to be in each other’s presence. And the creation of space is an “art”. Too much and one is perhaps forgotten, not often enough and one may feel suffocated and the loss of magnetism.

Home in Retrospect

It has been really difficult being back here “home”… What is home? It has changed for me so much. The last few years have been turbulent, revealing, painful, healing and empowering. Being back in this place has disorientated me in many ways.
Yes, it has been nurturing to my soul, my dear friends, blessed life long connections, family and loved ones, yet I feel displaced. Have you ever been somewhere that felt so familiar, yet you feel you didn’t belong anymore? I am here.

Exploring Male Consciousness

Something I have discovered in my own journey is that conscious masculine and male presence is predicated on the posture of non-judgement.

Most recently I have personally entered a vortex of releasing gross volumes of judgement from my being, from my expression and character. Traits adopted through my conditioning (societal, generational and familial) are leaving my being.


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