Tapping Into Your Feminine

The internalized embodiment of feminine consciousness by man has been a welcoming change as it has allowed both men and women to see each other at greater depth. A more profound appreciation has transpired towards women and this has bridged the gap of isolating our differences.

Instead, we have been able to celebrate our differences and merge in a greater union. And whilst this development has helped us relate more profoundly, we as men have also lost parts of ourselves. I’m embracing this feminine consciousness, we have lost integral aspects of our masculinity.

Guilt and shame of past collective actions have almost had us reject the expressions of masculinity that the feminine also values. Sovereignty, healthy self-reliance, a structured sense of self, discipline, rugged connection to land, compassionate decisiveness, strength, pride and honour in being of value and much more.

We have shifted our focus to life preservation as opposed to life-giving energies. We have been asked to be softer and more receptive, yet these qualities as dominant within man are somewhat foreign to us. We can still be “non-receptive” and not be violent. We can be in the energetic of giving without being forceful.

The masculine carries potent yang giving energy. And the feminine potent yin receiving energy. There was a time not long ago where men were craving harder women, and women craving softer men. We seem to be realizing that this inverse dynamic is not necessarily the way…

In focusing solely on feminine qualities we have lost side with the “wild man” within. That primitive, sexual, connected sense of masculinity that is the pole to feminine sensuality and softness. Polarity creates attraction. Are we diminishing that through homogenizing each other?

Too much softness as men has deterred us from venturing into the shadows of our psyches. This means we are repressed and we don’t know ourselves. We feel lost and a man lost and not in purpose demagnetizes his value.

The journey of understanding our receptive side as men means we can nurture, empathize and understand at deeper resonant levels, but losing our masculine fire and fierceness presents a problem. This is an essential stage and knows that no stage of development is the final stop.

When we choose to focus on cultivating healthy masculine qualities of that is our core essence then naturally with a certain level of openness, we will tap into our expressive feminine in just the right doses for ourselves and our relationships.

This is the next evolution of man. But we cannot throw away our capacity for strong masculine posture – independence, self-trust, strength, honour, utility in the world. Whilst these qualities are not limited to masculinity or men, they flourish within the masculine paradigm.

Focus on your core essence and balance will become more available. And with honouring your truth and experiencing balance comes deeper relatability.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



The Divinity Of Femininity

To honour the feminine is to honour the sacred dance of the slow, the sacred and the open.

To walk beside the feminine on this path of awakening means to be blessed by her grace and beauty.

To learn from each other is to teach each other. To lean in to each other and to SEE each other.

The still of the masculine meets the fluid movement of the feminine.

The depth of the masculine draws out the magnificent nature of the feminine – the sparkle, the beauty, the light.

We All Have Stories

We all have stories… We all have a past. Most of our pasts are less lopsided than we think.

Amidst the chaos, confusion and the volatility exists a place where there is at the least; some peace. My past and childhood at large weren’t pretty… Many of us share similar pasts.

Embracing differences

We speak to the differences in men and women not to segregate but to celebrate. This celebration allows us to honor ourselves and each other. The truth is we are in this together.

Divine Union is something that can only flourish when polarity is felt to be merged. When sacred masculine deliberate intention meets sacred feminine compassion and opening.

You Cheated – Do You Tell?

Are you asking yourself: “What kind of question is this?”. I asked myself the same question for TOO MANY years, until I came face to face with a rude abruption of life that was so painful, I had no choice but to look deeply at my life and all that I was being.

The One Thing That Creates Connection, Depth, and Intimacy

We learn at a young age to wear masks to protect ourselves and be part of the “in” or popular group. We seek validation, approval and acceptance of those we deify, love and respect (aka our parents, peers and society).
We can’t maintain this. We seek to be accepted in all the wrong ways. Masculine and feminine energies exist in all of us. They are simply contrasted energetic expressions of our thoughts, beliefs and reality.


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