Intimate sexual union is more about harmonizing the energetic poles between two beings than it is about reaching a particular “state”. The greatest “mistake” we make though is thinking that harmonization is a dulling down of our polarities or expression in order to be in some type of mundane state or balance… Quite the contrary.

Sexual exploration of self, another and/or each other (one and the same really) is heightened and amplified when each individual is in their core sexual energy (either masculine or feminine). Here, amplification unravels in order to collapse. Two become one, separate becomes whole, the distinction becomes fullness.

There is often fear around this because we feel that we are losing ourselves… We are… We are stripping back the ego layers of self in order to recognise a cosmic consciousness that exists beyond our normative sensory reckoning. We dissolve who we are in order to become who we have always been, yet cannot see.

In orgasm, there is a split moment where there is such intensity in the presence where all else is released. All forms, names and identity disappear ever so quickly, only to come back ever so quickly and there is at times a longing or even disappointment that we are “back” into our normal existence.

So, we chase that high again, that communion and union with that heightened sensation. We are chasing it, hungry for it and we think it’s an orgasm. However, it is not solely in orgasm. It is more in the intention we define for ourselves. How we know ourselves and then enact that into the world.

The deeper the deliberateness of this intention, the more powerful the transcendence of the physical into the ethereal. Harmonizing ourselves does not mean minimizing our true nature. It means allowing the facade of form to dissipate and amplify our core essence.

From here and only from here when we merge our core essence with the core essence of another like a magnet can we live beyond the constraints of our conditioning. Sexual polarity runs through all of us. It begins with discovering who we truly are and wish to be and allowing sexual union to be sacred.

One is glad to be of service.

STEFANOS SIFANDOS

Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author