The Paradigm of Emotional Intelligence in Modern Masculinity

The contemporary woman – a profoundly interconnected, intellectual, and superior entity – seeks a companion who mirrors her emotional depth and self-awareness. She is unlikely to accommodate a man persistently detached from his feelings and self-understanding. It is crucial to note that her ideal partner isn’t just an outwardly expressive, emotionally open individual; instead, he displays intelligent emotional articulation, constituting a pivotal element of a healthy, modern man.

Possessing command over one’s emotions equates to having mastery over life itself. This emotional control extends to a comprehensive understanding of personal weaknesses, exemplifying genuine power, as opposed to conforming to the concept of a ‘new-age man.’ Authentic leadership materializes from openness and self-awareness, as opposed to wallowing in self-pity.

An emotionally intelligent man stands out by maintaining control over his feelings, demonstrating clarity, decision-making capabilities, and shouldering responsibility for his actions. He establishes trust and security through a consistent portrayal of conspicuous self-awareness. His emotional expression is neither leaky nor overwhelming; instead, he embodies stability and confidence in his identity.

It requires substantial bravery to admit past mistakes and acknowledge actions that may have caused others pain. Such courage and self-awareness enable one to comprehend internal emotions, take responsibility for them, and share the experience in a relatable, safe manner with a partner.

This emotional communication signifies caring, interest in a partner’s needs, and more importantly, a man ready to accept his shortcomings and enhance his life. Emotions play a significant role, but it’s not solely about them. It’s about self-regulation, self-understanding, and the ability to endure a spectrum of human experiences. These capabilities reflect resilience, robustness, assurance, and dedication.

Such traits are undeniably attractive, demonstrating well-rounded wisdom and the capacity to navigate complex situations. Adopting a victimized, passive stance, and blaming your feelings or disagreements on others narrows your perspective. You unwittingly play the victim, relinquishing responsibility for your internal experiences.

Your emotional reactions serve as mirrors, reflecting your hidden fears, wounds, and dysfunctions. Neglecting these indicators, projecting, and shaming others only steep you in ignorance, extreme selfishness, and unpredictability, resulting in a volatile character. We’ve all been that man at some point; a person driven by fear and concealed beneath a façade of bravado. However, this doesn’t need to define you.

Emotional intelligence is not only appealing but also essential for our collective evolution. After all, men too possess a limbic system, crucial for emotional processing. Your emotionally intelligent contribution is needed by the world, gentlemen.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



The Fragile Heart

I see myself in fragility at times. My fragility presents as anger, attempting to protect my heart from being hurt and my vulnerabilities and insecurities from being seen. I trust less, fight more and am more frazzled, overwhelmed and confused. This is me in parts of my shadow.

The Illusion Of Separation

We have never been separate. Whilst we are different in so many ways, we are a mirror of the variance that is us that we cannot ‘see’ nor feel from the first person.

Our difference is our power. Our differences are what bond and unite us. Our differences are what allow us to be empowered.

The Familiar Body

We may try, but to explain is futile. We may try, but the only path to take is that of embodiment and immersion…

There is the body that is so familiar that our glands swell, our mind races, our vision blurs, our blood flow increases and our heart rate accelerates.

You Have A Throne

Your throne awaits you.

Own your throne.

Cherish your throne.

Be your fucking throne.

My Unhealthy Shadow Relationship To Food

Men experience food addictions and body issues too. I used food as a means to escape. To leave my reality. It made me feel good. I felt connected, alive and SAFE with food. Food, like the movies, would momentarily take me away from a place that was violent, volatile and what felt to be unsafe.


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