What Women Truly Desire From Their Men

1. Emotional transparency and intimacy

2. To be seen without judgment

3. For their man to lead with certainty

4. Consistent behavior

5. Physical prowess, ability and strength

6. Willing to “do the work” with them

7. Presence and deep listening

8. Non-passivity and clarity in action

9. Prioritisation of the relationship

10. For their men to be living in “purpose”

11. Truth telling, courage and transparency

12. To know themselves to be trusting

13. A man that knows his yes’s and owns his no’s

14. A man that has cleared up his past issues

15. To be held fiercely and to be fought for

This list is a guide as to how we as men can show up with greater presence, truth and awareness in relationship to self and others. Relationship can ask us to be the best versions of self.

Will you adhere to the call? We all have needs and desires. There have been times in my life that I have wanted more from others, however in reality I was really wanting more from myself.

There are basic needs we have as humans. As we continue to expand the horizon of human potential and possibility, we can find that the needs we require to flourish we can activate in our own being at some deep level.

This does not mean we do not need others to thrive. We are relational beings, however HOW we need is important. If we come from scarcity, deficit and fear we become attached and demanding, rigid and desperate.

If we recognise that we too are our own wellspring of sustenance we realise that we may come from a place that is free and clean. Having done our inner work we may bathe in more profound levels of self-worth and self-belief.

Here, when we ask of others, we are asking from a place of love. In my life, I demanded so much from my unconscious wounded self that I projected rigidly upon others. This disconnected me from true intimacy.

When we assume ownership for who we are and responsibilities for our actions we can greater determine what we truly have capacity to give and what we are willing to receive.

What would you add to this list? I would add passion. I feel the both the feminine and women in general desire a passionate interlude between the play of life. Or perhaps that whole play may be passionate?

How do you define passion? And is there anything on the list that perhaps doesn’t resonate?

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



There Is Great Depth and Presence In Man

It exists.

It is there.

It is presence, it is stillness.

It is beyond the superficial and it is beyond the stigma.

The Great Divide

Space… The great divide. I am not speaking to the space we may know as outer space, the cosmos or the universe. I am referring to the space we require in relationships. We forget the utter importance of what space provides us.
Space is a bridge. Attraction, eroticism, connection and intimacy not only comes from closeness, but it comes from space, distance and a yearning to be in each other’s presence. And the creation of space is an “art”. Too much and one is perhaps forgotten, not often enough and one may feel suffocated and the loss of magnetism.

The Divide Between True Intimacy

“Proximity draws us close, near and bonds us. To be proximate to each other, we must remove the unconscious blockages that Dyer is from stepping in to connected and expansive presence”…

The Decisive Nature Of Man

Can you leap fully in to the life you choose and be all in?

Can you commit fully to what you value deeply?

Do you know what you value?

Have you the courage to posture your truth?

On Being Safe

Perhaps there is nothing more beautifully profound and magical then knowing with all that you are that you are safe for those who are in your lives, particularly your beloved. That you will hold them through the chaos, the internal raging sea of volatility that we all experience as we grow, change and transmute ourselves at various points in our lives.

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