What Is Masculinity?

Masculinity is not a fad, it’s not “bad”, toxic or wrong. Masculinity as an expressive construct is natural to us as men. As men, in our core essence of masculinity, we have lost touch with what it means to be “masculine”.

I am not here to tell you how to “be a man”. That’s your role, you know how. However, most men have lost deep contact with their healthy masculine presence. How to assume that power once more.

Let’s start with the basics. There are three things you can do, & as I mastered these acts in synchronicity & consistency I grew in profound measures.

1…Get physical. Train, move your body, connect to your physical strength. Physical strength lends itself to self-respect, discipline, mastery & confidence.

These traits make you appealing & trustworthy to yourself and to others. We live in a sedentary world. We have not evolved this way. It’s time to get into our bodies.

2…Get into nature. Be in the wilderness. Be alone, be with loved ones in the wild, be in solitude, silence & stillness, challenge your abilities & learn new physical & mental skills in the wild. Just be in nature.

We grew in the wild. We developed capacity, resilience & strength in the wild. The wild has shaped us. Convenience & comfort has fucking weakened us. We have lost faith in our abilities to be true to our nature.

3…Get in touch with other healthy men. This empowers us to be authentic, real & true. We project less on our lovers & families & take our pain, challenges & queries to our brethren. Rely on trusted, respected & revered sources of brothers many that call you forward & challenge you healthily.

Our ancestors intrinsically knew the value of all of this. The common thread is coming back to our biological & sociological evolutionary roots, as a starting point! From here we can grow into deeper & newer aspects of self. Our biology plays a role in who we are, but it’s not the entire picture.

The truth is though if we cannot honour the tangible (our physical bodies) we will not get to the more complex & abstract. Start here & observe the changes in you & how others perceive & treat you.

One is glad to be of service.

STEFANOS SIFANDOS

Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author

STEFANOS SIFANDOS

Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author

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What Is Masculinity?

Masculinity is not a fad, it’s not “bad”, toxic or wrong. Masculinity as an expressive construct is natural to us as men. As men, in our core essence of masculinity, we have lost touch with what it means to be “masculine”.
I am not here to tell you how to “be a man”. That’s your role, you know how. However, most men have lost deep contact with their healthy masculine presence. How to assume that power once more.

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