How You May Be Unealthily Co-Dependent

You rely on how others see you to determine your worth 

You mirror the emotions of your loved ones 

You validate your sense of self 

You feel the need to “rescue” others in relationship 

You are a massive people-pleaser 

People over-rely on you 

You prioritise the needs of others and minimize your voice 

Over-sensitive and empathetic – you feel TOO much 

You want others to solve your problems 

You feel lost without others

Co-dependency is a learned skill that can impede our ability and willingness to love openly and fully. We think it is expansive, but in truth, it is restrictive and limiting.

Codependency keeps us in old patterns of reliance, low self-worth and playing safe. The patterns around codependency rely on others to feel “good”, safe, “whole”. This sensation and yearning of wanting to feel complete or whole reside within all of us.

In the extremely unhealthy or codependent person, he/she believes the only way to feel whole or complete is through others. How they treat us, believe in us, what they think of us and more. All our power is given away?

Worse, we don’t believe in who we are. We generally reside on a spectrum of codependency, where we are unhealthily or healthily attaches to the viewpoints of others about who we are. We learn this as children. As we evolve our path here is to break free of these patterns.

That is way too much power and responsibility placed in the hands of others. In my life, I was put down by people I loved and looked up to. It took some time to gain my independence so that I could feel whole and become interdependent in relationship NOT codependent.

I help people break free of these patterns, re-balance their psyche, evolve the self-worth, step into the sovereignty and feel empowered. Feel free to connect if this resonates with you.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



Appreciation – Life – Connection – Death

We love, we live, we laugh, we cry, we feel the fullness of life. Life only passes us when we live in states where we do not appreciate what we have. Life passes us by so quickly, because rather than being present to the wonder of the moment, our mind is fast forwarding to a perceived to be more desirable place.

Where Do You Place Your Kindness?

Some of us find it easier to serve a global mission, donate blood, feed a starving village or be physically present at a natural disaster, rebuilding the homes, lives and social structures of others, then to be present to the intimate and immediate needs of a loved one…

To Honour Is To Create Together

“When I truly honoured myself, I was able to honour women”…

In this life I have been blessed to transform many times over. There have been times where I have delved deep in to my own self solo and in isolation. There have been times when I have been deeply supported by other brothers. And there have been times where I have been guided by the divine presence of the feminine.

Ravage The ‘Dark’

A message to all men…

Ravage, relish in and be fully present to all faces, sides and expressions of the feminine prowess and power. To be present to all that she is means you are willing to traverse the depths of being to truly know her and inturn, truly know yourself.

The Deal With “Feminine” Men

A hyper-feminized man has often received projection from a parent enmeshing with them and “needing” unconscious intimacy from their children, as they are not receiving it from their partners. This has caused the man to shut down his masculine essence and presence, whilst appeasing and prioritizing others and entertaining the unhealthy aspects of his feminine due to the codependent nature of his relationship with one or both of his parents.


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