The Pursuit Of Rawness

There is something sacred, yet tantalizingly fucking sexy about exposing ourselves in complete rawness to another living being.

To be seen for who we are, what we are, what we perceive and what we bring to the world in rawness, open vulnerability and the risk of being completely rejected is exhilarating yet epically scary.

To take, to give, to receive, feel presence, to be presence, to love, to express and to be willing. Ah, to be willing. Willing to what? Willing to show up and just be without inhibition, without fear and without shame.

That yearning to interact at a visceral level with another soul and to expose ourselves fully as we see others expose their inner sanctum is thrilling.

To ravage, relish in intimate delight, ravish in intoxicating bliss and open the heart – explode the mind and empower the body is a gift to the human condition.

To take with the deepest of permission, to receive the unknown. To be immersed in an interplay of give and take. To dance wildly to the substance that is the essence that is the true expression of deepest desires…

This is power. To be free of the need to impress and to be naked in front of another with all that we have ever been, this is true freedom.

To be liberated at this level of intensity is not only a gift but a point of evolution and an immersion in to being an ‘all the way human’. What does this mean?

It means we have dropped the facade and we are standing there free of shame, free Of guilt and free of judgment and victimizations.

What a place to be. What a revealing space to occupy… The sacred dance of the intimate, where we ascend through our sexual union… This is home…

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



Are You Desirable?

Now more than ever I feel deeply connected to the core of who I and appreciate deeply what I bring to the world, but it has not always been this way. I struggled as a child to know myself and to be comfortable to show ‘the real me’ in front of others.

Symbiotic Mirroring In The Beloved

When we move towards being open enough to love we begin to experience relationship in the most profound of ways. We define sacred union as a cosmic bond that allows us to merge in to each other in such a way that in the other we see ourselves…


Masculinity is forced because true masculinity in contemporary times has been suppressed. There are those that may say if something is forced, then it is not real, nor a worthy pursuit. AND, do we not at times force ourselves to play an instrument or up level our smarts in certain expressions or remain focused on a disagreement with a loved one so that we can reconcile?

Better OUT than IN

My beautiful grandmother would tell me to never hold farts in. In Italian, she would say often “Always out, never in.” I remember this distinctly, and then she would burp and I would laugh hysterically. She was the best! I then would run around farting and get excited to go to the toilet haha! I now often think about the real life implications of ‘out’.

Doing The Inner Work

Firstly, this isn’t a gender thing. It’s a people thing. We are often really scared of change.
This is often a tough one in relationships. We want people to change with us, to do what we do, try what we try, feel what we feel and share similar interests.
At a primal level, it is our nervous system feeling safe in the presence of familiarity. Additionally, when we share similar paths, values and interests we are all part of the “in-group”. In social psychology, this is crucial to one’s feeling of being safe and surviving.

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