The Domestication Of Man

Our time to excel in a way we have not before is here. We are being asked by our higher selves to forge a version of man that rises above the chaotic nature of our time and expand in consciousness.

Our sense of self (collectively and individually) has been stunted, reduced and minimized to some passive expression of what it means to be a masculine man. We have suppressed our presence in favor of being liked by the masses.

We are afraid to emote and express with clarity of fear of being judged, ridiculed and further isolated. This is not a story about victimization. We would be ignorant to think men are victims. We are not! However, we have lost our way and it is our responsibility to establish healthy and connected foundations of inter-relating.

Our journey towards individuated empowerment commences now. We must step in to and own our own sense of wholeness first before we come together. It begins with destroying the disillusioning idea of what we call “normal” (which is isolating) and liberating our healthy power.

Men and women alike may not want to hear this but for man to come in to his own sense of manhood, he must distance himself from woman, culture, war and pursuit (temporarily), so that he may traverse a rite of passage that familiarizes him with the depth of his own voice, presence and being.

We only know the mysteries unique to maleness when we separate from woman’s world (not the personhood of woman but the archetypal woman imprinted upon the collective psyche of the masculine).

But before we passage in solitude, we must know consciously how we are entangled, enmeshed, enwombed and defined by woman. Otherwise we will still be controlled by what is unconscious within us.

The mother wound – the projected and interpreted “sissifying” of our boys, which in essence is hyper-vigilant protection and perhaps an over compensated nurturing out of necessity not intention. And the father wound – the absent father, the seeking of approval from an unavailable source leaving us consistently empty. We must move away from these psychological pains and focus on something deeper.

That man is missing his purpose. He has become habituated by culture and the promise of fulfillment through “things”, doing, attaining, conquering and social status that he has forgetting his true north that can only be revealed through the reconnection to his heart-full and conscious presence.

Man must promote his own sense of solitude and connection to this cosmic power so that he may know himself. The traditional rites of passage that once promoted mans connection to purpose and meaning have be drowned in a sea of cultural absurdities…

As men we are missing a deeper sense of self found through being with ourselves and supported by an elder brethren that promote values such as: revering Mother Earth and the feminine alike, discernment, presence, balanced self-reliance, clarity, wisdom, patience and truth to mention some.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



The Resplendent Queen


For all of the women and the empowered, clear feminine within that have touched my life and impacted me… My queen, my muse – Christine, I love you and thank you for all that you are.

The vast women carrying so much depth, wisdom, reverence for men and clarified maturity who are entering my perception is humbling.

How I Stopped Playing The Victim

We often play the victim when we lack belief in ourselves. We play the victim to get attention and validation. I know I did. We also have an approach of blaming others for our misfortunes or even being highly codependent. My self-worth was so low that I needed to beg in all the different ways for people to SEE me and validate me. I searched outside of myself for love and compromised myself during that journey.

The Wounded Boy-Like Masculine

Right now our world needs structure, healthy transparency, a sense of healthy confidence and an ability to put away the ego and come together in greater harmony and compassion.

The wounded aspects of self are rising to the surface in a rapid way for both the feminine and masculine wounding. This means that we will feel more pressure, more pain and more uncertainty.

The Harsh Inner Critic

Lately, I have found myself comparing myself to others (particularly men in my space) that I perceive to hold the attributes I don’t yet have within myself. This has placed me in a little bit of a tailspin. There are times where I will be empowered and inspired and do more and concentrate on the authenticity of my expression and…

There are times where I revert and get stuck, feel the victim that I put so much effort in and “where am I still, what does he have that I don’t?” I criticize, become frustrated, agitated, short with others, despondent and not motivated to create. I feel jealousy and unworthy in this comparison mode.

The Privilege Of ‘Taking’

How can we take? What does it mean to ‘take’? Why does it matter? True and authentic taking is trust in motion. Taking from a place of connection, transparency, empowerment and surrender can only occur when there are equitable power balances in play.

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