Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

Today’s Modern Warrior

In a world of dysmorphic alpha males that are attached to polarized and unhealthy expressive states of being, something needs to give…

We tend to think that there are either alpha or beta males – firstly, this line of thinking is limiting (does alpha even truly exist???? And secondly, we have an opportunity to redefine what it means to be an ‘alpha’ male…

To be an alpha male in today’s world means to be conscientious. This level of awareness and clarity lays the foundations for who we are to become as men

Our social status and how we are received and perceived is defined by how we treat ourselves and others. To dominate, over power and be autocratic is self-serving. We needn’t do, nor be this in order be a strong male. Blind self-interest does not add value to the collective.

We need clarity and conscientiousness. When we are confident in who we are as men, we needn’t be forceful or abhorrent. We can still maintain a warrior spirit, be solid, vertical, trustworthy, stable and safe, pursue and protect what we value and be present to life without being fearful of ‘losing’.

When we define ourselves purely by hierarchy and our worth being based on performance against other men and society and this becomes our obsession – our behaviors align with this ‘win at any cost’ ethos and we become abhorrent, violent and oppressive at the extreme ends.

We can still ‘be’ powerful by being confident in ourselves, trusting who we are, knowing our worth and allowing part of our warrior spirit to be full of heart.

Courage, certainty, peak physical performance, humility, grace, leadership, focus, determination, the learned man, integrity, quiet observation, the ability to fight for what one believes in, trustworthiness, respectfulness, wisdom and so much more still define the alpha male – we simply remove the internalized and socialized fear/s that drives the extreme behavior that many alpha males are categorized by…

Today’s alpha male must be mindful, protect what he idealizes, values and believes through an empowered, grateful yet focused mindset. Through adaptive intelligence and integrated strength the alpha male demonstrates prowess through presence and an unwavering attitude.

Clarity of mind, simplicity in being, openness in heart. The alpha male of today must be integrated, adaptive, robust, know who they are and what they want – pursue and embody that whilst considering others. The alpha male of tomorrow cares deeply and knows intrinsically the value of chivalry

This is the balanced path of the evolved man…

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Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker
Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

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The man who respects, trusts and reveres himself is the man who stands in vertical awe of his own being.
This is not arrogance but rather ‘aware confidence’ and a deepened connection to self that supersedes doubt, fear and confusion.

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We all have sex. Most of us adore sex. Most of us crave it, yet many of us do not know what we truly want when it comes to our sexual desires or fantasies. Our sexual fantasies often remain in the imagination because we are too fearful to explore the meaning of them.

The Art Of Dying

I watched at extremely close proximity my grandparents suffer with physical and psychological ailments during their twilight years. It was hard to watch them deteriorate and be immobile in everyday simple life. Whilst they handled this like bosses, it was interesting to witness highly independent beings become highly reliant on others for basic functioning

Close Your Eyes – Open Your Soul

Imagine moving close to the one that tantalises the sensation of alertness on your skin, but not too close.

Visualise your body making ever the slightest of contact on the body of your beloved for the first time, then immediately pulling away.

Feel your breath become more rapid with anticipation.

To Honour Is To Create Together

“When I truly honoured myself, I was able to honour women”…

In this life I have been blessed to transform many times over. There have been times where I have delved deep in to my own self solo and in isolation. There have been times when I have been deeply supported by other brothers. And there have been times where I have been guided by the divine presence of the feminine.

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