Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

The Essence Of A King

A reflective piece on man living in his potential…

The King is all knowing. A true king does not confine his mind to incessant and distracting chatter that deters him from wisdom. A true king knows his worth and acts in accordance with this intricate knowing.

The King is all powerful. A true king does not negate his responsibility as a powerhouse of wisdom. A true king does not misuse his power, but rather embraces his gifts to serve and to give. However, never compromising his integrity.

The King is protective. A true king protects what he values and what is his. What is his is his inner kingdom. His inner domain. What is his is the manner in which he can choose to respond to life.

The King is curious. A true king is not arrogant enough to think he ‘knows’ it all. What he knows, he owns, what he does not he avidly seeks. This is one of his greatest super powers.

The King is a strong provider. A true king does not negate those in need, nor those who require his guidance. A true king has time for those I need. He realises the interconnectedness of life.

The King is a clear channel. A true king communicates openly, clearly, with discernment and with knowing. He expresses as he needs to, he is continent with his word and articulates only necessary communication.

The King is courageous. A true king is not afraid of effort. He is not afraid to explore the chasms of his own psyche, being and relationships.

The King is a believer. A true king carries intelligent hope. He carries such hope for a kingdom that he can be proud of. Particularly his inner kingdom. He believes in his capacity to grow.

The King is vertical. A true king has confidence in his actions, thoughts, and deeds. He stands by his decisions and owns his value and contribution.

The King is humble. A true king bathes in humility, does not gloat and does not emerge in to life or relationships from ego.

The King is kind and fair. A true king believes in equity, fair exchange and balance. From here, all may unfold as it must.

The King is present. A true king is aware of his world in all ways. A real king can be present, not at the expense of his own sanity, but he can see clearly the necessity to ‘play the long game’.

The King is patient. A true king can wait, yet take action as he needs to, when he needs to.

The King is collaborative. A true king can lean on his confidants, advisors, friends and beloved for insight, yet he is wise enough to make choices and take action as required.

The King is balanced. A true king strives for excellence in being, acting, doing and loving. A true king realises that the human being is multifaceted and from finding balance here we grow.

There is far more to the king than just this, but for now these virtuous characteristics and expressions will keep us engaged and curious.


One is always glad to be of service.


Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker
Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

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