Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

On Being Safe

Perhaps there is nothing more beautifully profound and magical then knowing with all that you are that you are safe for those who are in your lives, particularly your beloved. That you will hold them through the chaos, the internal raging sea of volatility that we all experience as we grow, change and transmute ourselves at various points in our lives.

If you can be safe during these period through trusting and un-wavering certainty you are not only giving a gift of purity and life to another – you are deeply evolving yourself with great strength and connection.

One feeling that no being should consistently, repeatedly and regularly feel from their beloved is insecurity, a lack of safety and feelings of untrustworthy in the relationship. We enter sacred union to grow, to become more empowered versions of ourselves. Not so much because of how the other shows up specifically (although this matters of course), but rather how we choose to respond to intimacy.

In this responsiveness, we have a choice to be stable and safe, to be a beacon of wisdom and trust or to be uncertain, undefinable and erratic by our expression. Of course, there is a middle ground and that is where we take elements of both and be that in the relationship. However, this posture also leads to at times intense discomfort through the experience of erratic and volatile uncertainty.

To be safe for another is a blessing, a gift and an opportunity to expand and reach the far chasms of the unchartered and unexplored layered self. To be connected to the certainty of who one is with such clarity and wisdom shines a bright light on what is at times quite dark, hazy, scary and painful. To assist another to move through their personal pain and fear whilst you are a lighthouse shining the way is an honour and something to be revered.

In fact, as human beings it is our duty to see beyond our own pain and be present and safe for others. We are relational, connect beings – neurally, emotionally, psychologically and biologically. How do we do this, embody this? By ‘working’ on our own shadows, equilibrating our pain, our past and our trauma. To be at peace with who we have been, what we are and where we have come from. Importantly, to respect and be in deep connection to who we are becoming with the conscious choices we make in the present.

The dream world is an interesting place. A place of magic, deep revealing and empowered insight in to the workings of our minds and relationships. Jungian dream theory states that dreams reveal more than they conceal. They are a natural expression of our imagination and use the most straightforward language at our disposal: mythic narratives. Dreams are doing the work of integrating our conscious and unconscious lives; he called this the process of individuation.

In our dreams we may allow ourselves to be this strength, this connection, this safe place. We can practice in our dreams, get deeply connected to what we desire and who we wish to be for ourselves and for others. Look at dreams as our playground and practice ground for expression in the physical realm.

To be safe, is to be whole. To be whole is to live openly and gesture grandly in this life. To be whole involves brain integration, psychological equilibration, emotional literacy and relational harmony to co-exist peacefully within your world. To be safe is to call in your one accurately, lovingly and authentically – it is to call in your greatest love, which begins with the acknowledgement of that whole love within you. From here, it branches out towards the far reaches of all that is and ever will be.

One is always glad to be of service.

Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker
Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker
[fbcomments]

The Talk To Trauma

We speak a great deal to the wounds of the past, the pain we have experienced ‘growing up’. We can be debilitated unknowingly by the pain we harbour within because we have been unable to release the tension certain experiences have caused us – the feeling of an endless mountain looms ahead.

The Holding Through Tears – An Open Share

“As I sit here today, contemplating, feeling the feels, slightly melancholic, yet optimistic and clear – allowing myself to be with where I am I reflect deeply on the temporal nature of ‘things’ and how they affect us and can I come back to holding self? There is great joy in feeling fully and not bypassing parts of self. It leads to greater overall happiness and connection.

Masculine Closeness & Sexuality

  Stef Sifandos Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker     I just finished leading my weekly webinar with my group...

What Women Truly Desire From Their Men

This list is a guide as to how we as men can show up with greater presence, truth and awareness in relationship to self and others. Relationship can ask us to be the best versions of self.

Will you adhere to the call? We all have needs and desires. There have been times in my life that I have wanted more from others, however in reality I was really wanting more from myself.

The Unhealthy Fearful Feminine

ourage has been forged from blooms of fear and action. Fear can breed depth of being if we allow it. When we are scared, we either retract and wither or we expand and go in to the mystery of the night and explore the unknown territories of the cosmos with glee and prowess.

FEAR IS NATURAL – FEARS ARE NOT “BAD”! These fears related to the feminine DO NOT only exist in women, they exist in men also! Masculine / feminine energies exist in all people!

Share This