Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

The Power Of Belief In Relationship

If you don’t believe in yourself or your beloved, you will never grow and be in consistent friction within your own mindscape and your dynamic with each other.

Commencing with a belief in yourself. Knowing who you are, taking ownership for your choices and actions. Assuming responsibility for your path and being willing to learn from your experiences opens up the opportunity for growth.

Here, then we must understand that we are all ‘different’ in our values.

From belief in self comes belief in another.

From belief in another comes a foundation for respect and reverence.

From respect and reverence vines our capacity to care and trust.

From sincere care and trust comes the creation of an environment of safety.

From safety we are more willing to experiment, innovate, express and explore.

From the exploration of the mystery in our lives comes deep challenge.

From deep challenge comes the opportunity for profound mutual and individual growth.

And from this shared growth comes deepened intimacy and bonding.

Here, we get to really know each other. We are not judging each other and we are respecting each other’s differences and value sets. We trust each other and ourselves to make decisions that we will grow and learn from.

As long as we consciously communicate ourselves to one another, we will grow. Yes, we will experience hardship but a consistent belief (and reverence) in self and our beloved (mutually reciprocated) will liberate us from chronic friction in our relating.

Believe in who you are, believe in the potential of your beloved. Honour them for their courage, remain true and authentic to your values and theirs (this is crucial), support their decisions and know that it’s all for growth.

This is conscious relating. It’s always an ‘inside job’ first…

One is always glad to be of service.

Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker
Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

The Familiar Body

We may try, but to explain is futile. We may try, but the only path to take is that of embodiment and immersion…

There is the body that is so familiar that our glands swell, our mind races, our vision blurs, our blood flow increases and our heart rate accelerates.

Loss – Wholeness – Love

What is loss? Does loss even exist or is it all semantics – a game of words used to describe what we truly do not understand? Can we explain love, loss, gain, pain, and growth? Perhaps we cannot fully explain these notions…

The Flame Of True Desire Is Love In Motion

There is nothing wrong with desiring. It’s more HOW we desire that really affects our sense of self and the quality of our relationships. Desiring allows us to pursue, stop and embody, feel, think, perceive, dream and move through the world.

Bullies Are Tortured Souls

Fractured and fragmented by their own sense of not belonging, feeling rejected, and being isolated themselves. They turn to outward blame and assault to feel better and feel relief from their powerlessness. It doesn’t justify it, nor make it right… We heal through resilience and compassion. Lets’ delve in deeper…

To Feel

o FEEL beyond that moment, yet to be fully immersed in that moment

To SEE beyond the superficial, yet to appreciate deeply the aesthetic

To KNOW there is so much more, yet to be content with what one has

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