The Vulnerable Man

For too long, have we as a society demeaned the power of open heart based – vulnerable and feeling based and communication. Whilst we all feel, so many of us have denied the full expression of inwardly defined expression.

This has been most prominent and dominant in men. Men have lost their innate and empowered ability to communicate, express and feel authentically, meaningfully and beautifully.

Vulnerability Is Not A Weakness

The choice to do this has largely been grounded in the perception that it is a weakness to be vulnerable with oneself outside of oneself and towards oneself.

Men being largely territorial, possessive and valuing constructs and postures opposing the premise of healthy open expression have seen men distance themselves further from their core selves and those they care for deeply.

These traits are part bio-physiological / evolutionary (hard wired yet plastic traits) and part culturally conditioned (developed, impressed and enhanced via our environment and normative social values and practices).

A Time To Grow

Irrespective of this, our species has suffered at our (men) more often than not inability to connect and bond deeply. This lack of deeper intimacy has damaged our relationships and disconnected us from our needs as a loving species.

Vulnerability is actually power. With out immense courage one can not be vulnerable. To open one’s heart and inner space to the world is daunting, terrifying, and may feel soul destroying. So we generally refrain from engaging in such practices.

Vulnerability allows us to release – to release our inner pain, to be heard, to be felt, to be seen, to be known. When we regularly embody this practice with those that we can trust, respect and revere we feel safer and in this safety we can express fully.

It is in this open and endearing exchange that we find ourselves. Our neurology literally transmutes and vibrates with new synaptic connections and pathways literally building a more evolved, compassionate (unified), empathetic and connected being.

We also build and cultivate courage and deeper levels of self-awareness. In this space we begin to feel profoundly, essentially coming in to Wholeness of being. Fragmenting less and improving the quality of our relationships and exchange of intimacy between our loved ones.

The Power To Transcend

If we continue to deny our vulnerability, we are denying two things:

1. Our ability to go deeper, grow, evolve, transform our own journeys – shift pain, inner turmoil and suffering.
2. Quality relationships, intimacy, bonding, connecting and being known.

We are relational beings by nature. We require deep intimacy in order to flourish, thrive and prosper. To feel is to become greatness. As men we must take lead to feel fully and connectedly once again…

Vulnerability is not a weakness, it is a f*****g super-power and one that will evolve our relationships beyond question.

One is always glad to be of service.

STEFANOS SIFANDOS

Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author