The Silent Killer

We all want love. We all wish to be deeply connected. Sentience, intelligence, wisdom permeates all of us.

This yearning to be seen and to belong, to feel intimate connection courses through the essence of all that we are, have been and will ever be.

Irrespective of ‘humaneness’, sentience wishes to expand through connected union.

There is nothing more sacred than another being given themselves to you. Opening their hearts, their being and their love and stating openly “I am here, hold me”.

This is a gift, a treasure to be held, a gesture to be adored, a posture to be revered and an action to consider with depth and adoration.

Love, affection, closeness, bonding, intimacy, anticipated and felt Union – all dissipate fear, pain, tension and disconnection.

When we give ourselves to those we can trust, respect and revere we are held and we all grow in togetherness.

This moment was captured in an authentic moment vulnerability and sharing. There is nothing more graceful and beautiful than another being giving themselves in safety and trust and us upholding that.

It was my honour to hold this being. To love her, cherish this moment and be present to her need to be held and acknowledged.

Yes, I’m anthropomorphizing, and yes, this moment is real, genuine and when I gaze at this moment with my mind’s eye gratitude overwhelms and tears of appreciation trickle down my cheek.

I have come from places where I was ignorant to what was being giving to me. Where I was unaware of the softness, the vulnerability and the courage taking place. I undervalued its power. 

I was selfish, disconnected and blind. Now, when these moments enter my life (and thankfully they enter often – it’s now the norm) I embrace them with depth and expansion. I have learned and continue to grow and embrace what is humbly offered.

This puppy just wants attention, recognition, affection and care. Not primarily from ego but because somewhere within her, she intrinsically and implicitly knows that this bonding will allow her to transcend limitations, somewhere within us – we also ‘know’ this…

When another being gives themselves to you, please know there is tremendous honour and depth in this. Be humble in receiving and gentle in how you hold this. Hold them and the energy in their way…

To take this lightly is to discount the value being offered. Here, we must embrace this open heart and meet it with our openness of heart.

What a beautiful journey we are all on. I love ‘love’. And to love ‘love’ is to be open to infinite possibility. If we can be present to the love that surrounds us, we may grow wildly.

One is always glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



The Holding Through Tears – An Open Share

“As I sit here today, contemplating, feeling the feels, slightly melancholic, yet optimistic and clear – allowing myself to be with where I am I reflect deeply on the temporal nature of ‘things’ and how they affect us and can I come back to holding self? There is great joy in feeling fully and not bypassing parts of self. It leads to greater overall happiness and connection.

Healing the Goddess Wound

Healing the goddess wound is going to require effort from all of us. The goddess was once revered. Time to bring this honoring back. What is the goddess wound? It is the suppression of the divine potential and value of the feminine expressive that we all require in order to live harmoniously and flourish sexually, socially, relationally and technologically.

The Importance of Sacred Sexuality

Sexuality IS sacred. It allows us to know ourselves through the other. We seek to experience true lasting joy more than we do “pleasure”. Pleasure is easily accessible, a quick fix, short-term gratification that distracts.

Appreciating Differences and Diversity

Men and women are different. This is not a “bad” thing. We get to celebrate our differences and our sameness simultaneously. We all think we desire equality, but do we really desire equity? It’s safe to be different, in fact necessary.

Doing The Inner Work

Firstly, this isn’t a gender thing. It’s a people thing. We are often really scared of change.
This is often a tough one in relationships. We want people to change with us, to do what we do, try what we try, feel what we feel and share similar interests.
At a primal level, it is our nervous system feeling safe in the presence of familiarity. Additionally, when we share similar paths, values and interests we are all part of the “in-group”. In social psychology, this is crucial to one’s feeling of being safe and surviving.


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