A New Way To Look At Anger

When we pursue what we value with tenacity, unparalleled focus and a mindset of resilience we learn more about ourselves, our capacity and our power than almost any other means of self-discovery.

Let’s redefine aggression for a moment. Let’s look at aggression as inspired relentlessness. It’s a fuel source that sources our highest expression in to the world. Now, raw aggression in times of absolute survival is a different concept.

Let’s take the energy, essence and momentum of this raw aggression (fight mode) and bring that in that which we love minus the harm and protect at any cost. When we do this we harnessing tremendous creative power.

Must we be ‘aggressive’ all of the time in relation to our creativity and passions? No, it’s simply one modality of being in the world. The issue is the essence of raw aggression is under-utilized because there is an immediate association with harm.

It leaves an ill taste on our mouths. It’s an extreme expression, however! If we remove the intent of survival, self-preservation and protection at any cost and leverage the momentum of this power for creative use we change the world.

In the past and presently aggression is immediately associated with violence and oppression and in most cases that would be correct. I’m asking us to reframe and redirect. There is great freedom, evolution and revelation in this.

More importantly, we transform ourselves…. okay, so how do we channel this power? How do we transmute it in to a constructive force, you may ask? Simple, it comes down to three things.

1… Know yourself – know how you react, respond, your beliefs that underpin your actions, your why, your willingness to traverse difficulty, what are your values? Know all of that which you are so you be robust in varied situations that require you to be agile and nimble in posture.

2… Your intention – be clear on why you are you choosing to act in particular way. Get clear on how your healthy aggression will give what you need AND enhance the lives of others.

3… Doing the work – you’ve got to go deep in to you. You have to know your edges. You must challenge yourself and nowhere your fault points are. Doing the work means being willing to explore the uncertainty and the discomfort that resides within you.

Ultimately, the channeling of this healthy power will add another tool to your tool belt of life.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



Ravage The ‘Dark’

A message to all men…

Ravage, relish in and be fully present to all faces, sides and expressions of the feminine prowess and power. To be present to all that she is means you are willing to traverse the depths of being to truly know her and inturn, truly know yourself.

On Death & Loneliness

There are times when I feel so disconnected from this place, I fee so isolated – like there is only me, I am in relation to nothing and all that I perceive is an illusion and projection of me…

The Gift Of Jealousy – Why Do We Experience Jealousy?

Jealousy, if misunderstood, not felt and expressed fully and not connected to in an authentic manner can reap havoc with our emotional lives. It becomes problematic when we ignore where the deep feeling of jealousy may lead us…

Symbiotic Mirroring In The Beloved

When we move towards being open enough to love we begin to experience relationship in the most profound of ways. We define sacred union as a cosmic bond that allows us to merge in to each other in such a way that in the other we see ourselves…

The Giving Of The Cosmic Heart

“I have ‘seen’ it all and in seeing it all, I fear no-thing or no-one”.

It is only in recognizing the value of living that we may bow in sublime reverence to love and the open heart of presence.

We all emerge, expand and merge from the same source of life. That source is the infinite tonal beat of the cosmic heart.


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