Where Is The Love?

The world feels sad. I’ve been away in the mountains away from the world a couple of months ago, journeying deeper into self in solitude and on a vision quest (more on this later). The world has changed, or have I?

The world seems distant and scared of its self, its power, and its possibility. It feels it has retracted some or maybe a lot, the world feels on edge. Like a small child that has done “something wrong” and is now hiding in the corner in shame.

People are friendly still (almost a little too much) – a fakeness, a lack of willingness to lift the veil to what is really unraveling…what is unraveling? Are we even asking this?

There seems to be a trembling in posture and a quivering in speech. Like the mother who is in an abusive marriage and shows to the children “all is okay”, secretly fearing for her life and the life of her children and paralyzed to take action because she is so overwhelmed.

So unsure what to do, on edge – the world’s sympathetic nervous system (fight, flight or freeze) in full effect. Like a deer in the headlights. Stuck, yet wanting to move, yet not knowing how because the fear is piercing each cell of the body. Body immobile, tears, and all deeper emotions suspended in nothing but a distant possibility.

Our human version of this is going to what is familiar. “Business as usual.” Let’s sweep this under the rug, maybe this uncomfortable feeling will disappear if we just adapt and keep busy. Will it?

Like the young boy, who is beaten daily, but keeps going to school PRETENDING all is okay, hiding his wounds. The teacher knowing something isn’t “right,” yet can’t prove it or is also too scared to question REALITY.

What is actually happening? There is a heaviness in the world and I feel profound sadness in my heart. I feel almost a shame being back here like I don’t belong…maybe the lights are still too bright for me, maybe something has shifted, maybe a deeper truth is being revealed and like having been underwater too long rising to the surface with haste to gasp air.

Am I alone in this? What are you feeling? I can’t ignore this and I’m transmuting profoundly.

Black Eyed Peas said it best… Where is the love? ❤️

STEFANOS SIFANDOS

Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author

STEFANOS SIFANDOS

Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author

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