Willingness Trumps Trying

We forget the power of taking ownership of our thoughts And actions and stepping in to this action from a place of clarity and discernment.

Trying is misdirected. It is noncommittal and flaky. Trying means we don’t believe in ourselves. Trying is laden with excuses preparing us for the justification of failure and it side steps us out of fear.

Willingness states loudly “I AM HERE”. I am prepared to face the pain, the fear, the discomfort. I am willing to learn, grow and adapt. I am prepared for whatever may come and I choose to expand because of it…!

Trying is a way out. Trying is a facade. It gives the appearance of presence but is actually distant and contracted. Trying is for show. It pretends because it lacks clarity to discern and assume the responsibility necessary to grow.

I tried for so much of my life. Projected the illusion of presence, strength and commitment, but was never really there… always running in my mind waiting for the ‘next thing’ and short-term gratification to stimulate my senses.

When I chose to be willing and not be attached to an outcome (presence) I became free and became committed, excited and enthralled by the journey. I ceased to be false and I only committed to truth aligned experiences.

Willingness gave me perspective, foundation, wisdom and a yearning to be courageous. All other virtues expanded and were amplified because my willingness to grow, learn and show my power to the world.

Willingness is power. Trying comes with excuses and a never-ending trail of ‘what ifs’. You’re better than that. You always have been. Perhaps somewhere along the way you were told you weren’t… I call bullshit. Now you / we have an opportunity to be WILLING to explore possibility and our power…

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



You Cheated – Do You Tell?

Are you asking yourself: “What kind of question is this?”. I asked myself the same question for TOO MANY years, until I came face to face with a rude abruption of life that was so painful, I had no choice but to look deeply at my life and all that I was being.

To Ravage and Ravish

See beyond man and woman for a moment.

You want to ravage and ravish the feminine in your life… Then be safety, be heart-centered presence, be consistent, be that container you are meant to be.

For the feminine to open herself up, to flower to you, to show herself fully the masculine must meet her where she is. The masculine must learn to lead that dance.

The Healer and The “Sufferer”

In ancient shamanic traditions, the healer and the “sufferer” conjoin together to journey through the trauma where the shaman/healer deeply supports this releasing of terror in a profound and liberating way.

Doing The Inner Work

Firstly, this isn’t a gender thing. It’s a people thing. We are often really scared of change.
This is often a tough one in relationships. We want people to change with us, to do what we do, try what we try, feel what we feel and share similar interests.
At a primal level, it is our nervous system feeling safe in the presence of familiarity. Additionally, when we share similar paths, values and interests we are all part of the “in-group”. In social psychology, this is crucial to one’s feeling of being safe and surviving.

Who’s Your Brother?

Men are too isolated, lonely, disconnected and not aware of the need to have men in their lives.
Men today have fallen from their own grace. Men have lost their own sense of deep responsibility in honouring the path of brotherhood. In a world of hyper-competition and fears driven action we have become isolated by our own conditioning. Men were born to be warriors. Like we will never directly relate to the giving of birth, the bond between warrior brothers is one reserved for the connected man.


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