To Ravage and Ravish

See beyond man and woman for a moment.

You want to ravage and ravish the feminine in your life… Then be safety, be heart-centered presence, be consistent, be that container you are meant to be.

For the feminine to open herself up, to flower to you, to show herself fully the masculine must meet her where she is. The masculine must learn to lead that dance.

For the feminine to step fully in to softness and surrender the masculine must be vertical in action, postured, confident and hold depth in breath. Can you look deeply in the feminine, gaze with stable intensity and emote with prowess?

The feminine AND the masculine wants to be feel, the feminine wants to be felt and yearns to feel you. If the masculine is murky, clarity eludes us. Confusion breeds isolation, nervousness and mistrust. Are we both prepared to do the work in order to see each other?

We ask the masculine to BE presence… This means to choose to feel it all, the goodness, the shadow, the ugly, the all. Whatever arises in the now. This demonstrates true strength – to be with what arises in the MOMENT devoid of judgment and laden with layered meaning.

Just being with what comes, owning it and still being there. The feminine yearns for this kind of feeling presence – unwavering truth penetrating the essence of the unified feminine.

The feminine does not welcome fracture. She resides in wholeness. The masculine expression of wholeness is cosmic expansion. A realization that all may be welcomed in to one’s awareness without the need to interpret and judge. The feminine welcomes this with compassion.

As the masculine can you experience anger, joy, excitement, fear and more and still hold the container of stability for yourself, where you feel from heart resonance and you act from stillness in mind…?

It’s a dance of the polarity. Meet your pole in complimentary opposite and your interaction will spark divinity.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



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…and at times YES… To really say no is one of the most challenging practices.

How often do you honor your no for the sake of your own needs and not be attached to what others may think of you or how they may react? In my life I have largely oscillated between either keeping completely quiet and withdrawing when I want to vocalize my truth or if I do express its in an extreme manner.

Healthy Intimacy Vs. Unhealthy Intimacy

We all yearn for connection, touch, understanding and a wanting to be seen. We often create barriers to this level of trusted connection due to certain traumatic or painful experiences we have had and the beliefs we have then formed around these experiences.

Sacred Sexuality

The practical sense of REAL and TRUE sacred sexuality is supporting and seeing each other through uncertainty and vulnerability.
Sacred sexuality allows us not to hide, to be open in our bodies.
Sacred sexuality allows us to trust. This frees us so we do not harbour pain and tension.

Anahata Chakra

The area of the heart (Anahata) can be challenging for solarised masculine men to open, express healthily and still remain in yang or solar energy. This chakra is part of the mental body and can be challenging to arouse. To activate this area of expression and being, it is essential we have activated the receptive side of our being.


Complete this assessment to uncover the exact blocks preventing you from attracting and experiencing the love and intimacy you truly desire

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