There Will Always Be Peanut Butter

At times we often gaze into the sky, into nothingness, to the stars, to the horizon, to apparent emptiness.

In these times of deep and sincere gazing, we question our place and path. We abstractly enquire into the nature of our existence, of our actions and our feelings.

What does it all mean? Why me? Why the pain? What are the lessons? Is life meant to be this challenging? These are some of the questions we may ask.

These questions and more penetrate our heart and soul. We query our capacity, we question our beliefs and models of reality, we doubt, fear and become apprehensive.

We belittle ourselves sometimes and we devalue our worth. We regret the choices we did not make and those we did. We cannot ‘understand’ nor connect to our power and we feel shame, guilt and pain.

This stops us from being vulnerable and open, engaged and connected to our truth. We become sad for the love we have lost and we become disheartened for the love we have not received.

We dwell on the past and we worry about the future. We struggle to remain present and agitation gets the better of us.

And then…We may breathe. We feel, we move into stillness, silence and solitude. We recalibrate our internal movement and overactive mind and under-feeling heart and we connect to the core of who we are.

We recognize that life is actually a blessing and not a burden. We begin to be attentive to the wonder in the world. We recover from the disharmony and we enter into the spark that is life.

And so the cycle begins once more. We have all been there – these cycles are transient, impermanent and an integral part of growth. But one thing remains true throughout the ebb and flow of life.

Peanut butter always tastes so f*****g good! It’s always dependable and it’s always there as the simplicities of life can once again grant us perspective to liberate us from our attachments and pain.

Peanut butter will always be there. Seriously, who the f**k does not love peanut butter??? You will always have a friend and support in peanut butter.

And if not peanut butter (for some unexplainable reason you are super strange and don’t love peanut butter) then there will always be something else (an experience, person, memory, great love, earthly pleasure) to warm your heart and strengthen your resolve.

You are intrinsically magnificent. Focus on that. Bring that into your heart. Own that. Pay attention to the value that brings in to your life and nurture that experience in your time of need. It will liberate you from limitation and constriction.

You’re welcome.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



To Feel

o FEEL beyond that moment, yet to be fully immersed in that moment

To SEE beyond the superficial, yet to appreciate deeply the aesthetic

To KNOW there is so much more, yet to be content with what one has

Judgment, Disgust & An Open Heart – Expression In Intimate Relationship

Judgement is a tool for separation, for denial of the wholeness of what we are. In intimate relationship judgement hinders our ability to connect openly and lovingly.

A Strong NO Means The YES Carries Greater Substance

We are often so afraid of our no’s. We are afraid to be seen as perhaps going against the grain, letting others down, being seen a certain way or perhaps there is a fear of a backlash – rejection, humiliation, abandonment at the deepest roots of our fears.

The Great Divide

Space… The great divide. I am not speaking to the space we may know as outer space, the cosmos or the universe. I am referring to the space we require in relationships. We forget the utter importance of what space provides us.
Space is a bridge. Attraction, eroticism, connection and intimacy not only comes from closeness, but it comes from space, distance and a yearning to be in each other’s presence. And the creation of space is an “art”. Too much and one is perhaps forgotten, not often enough and one may feel suffocated and the loss of magnetism.

The Masculine Within

What happens when the masculine within leaves? All the times we’ve neglected ourselves didn’t trust, obsessed with excessive and external validation and approval and couldn’t contain our power, we lost our ability to love ourselves as we were.
We judged and didn’t appreciate. We felt unprotected, loose in our boundaries and excessive in our ways. Aggressive, short-tempered and sad that we were not seen. This is a big part of the “father wounding”.


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