The Unhealthy Fearful Feminine

Fear of the loss of significance

Fear of the loss of beauty

Fear of being perceived as carrying low social value

Fear of low sexual value

Fear of not being seen and heard

Fear of being abandonment and being alone

Fear of not being loved

Fear of never experiencing intimacy

Fear of not being valued

Fear of being ostracized from community 

Courage has been forged from blooms of fear and action. Fear can breed depth of being if we allow it. When we are scared, we either retract and wither or we expand and go in to the mystery of the night and explore the unknown territories of the cosmos with glee and prowess.

FEAR IS NATURAL – FEARS ARE NOT “BAD”! These fears related to the feminine DO NOT only exist in women, they exist in men also! Masculine / feminine energies exist in all people!

It is how we relate to fear that defines us and shapes who we become as men. If we obsess over fear and allow it to be our ultimate reality and choose not to learn from it our expression and exploration becomes limited and unhealthy.

The fears mentioned only become unhealthy when they rule our minds, hearts and actions. If we dance with our fears, revere them and welcome them in to our hearts we become whole, FULL and grow in to empowered, beings who care about themselves and others with great equanimity.

In my own life, I allowed fear to rule me, to enslave my heart and to have me playing small. My fear drove me in to hiding as a wounded child, scared of the world, my father, his heavy hands and heavy words. Later in life, my fear forced me in to the world in an abhorrent way.

Hyper-aggressiveness, attack first, ask questions later, hostility in my relationships and I would close down the heart of the woman I was with because I was so armoured and I refused to open up to loving and possibly being rejected.

Fears on their own are not unhealthy. They are in fact here to guide us and teach us. To show us and help us see and FEEL the essence of who we truly are in this world.

If you are tired of being alone, in the dark and not connecting to the masculine in fullness, then this journey is for you. To truly feel the heart of man, you must know his fears and your own in equanimity.

Our culture conditions us to feel differently at least at some level. When we support each other through knowing each other, we grow together in love.

It was the compassionate, understanding and non-judgmental heart of the divine feminine (that was free of her own fears) that helped free me from the shackles of my ignorance, fear and pain. That alongside my willingness allowed me to see and FEEL with great clarity and live my truest life.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



Soul Stimulation

Turn your sexual stimulation into “soul stimulation”. YES, please stimulate your physical sexuality AND elevate your soul through your sex.

If your soul embodies all of that which you and that ALL is, then your sex accesses the whole and unified experience that is you. In that moment of divine bliss, there is you, there is the other and there is a merging and blending into wholeness.

What Is Masculinity?

Masculinity is not a fad, it’s not “bad”, toxic or wrong. Masculinity as an expressive construct is natural to us as men. As men, in our core essence of masculinity, we have lost touch with what it means to be “masculine”.
I am not here to tell you how to “be a man”. That’s your role, you know how. However, most men have lost deep contact with their healthy masculine presence. How to assume that power once more.

The Importance Of Emptiness

THE FEMININE thrives in being full. THE MASCULINE in emptiness. When the masculine feels threatened it pursues in excess the feeling of emptiness through controlling force. Shadow masculine energy is forcing the feminine to be empty – empty of nutrients in the ocean, clean drinking water wells, mountains stripped of their minerals and the feminine having her voice emptied and taken from her being… We are currently in an excessive collective shadow expression of masculinity.

Are You Lost In The Doing?

Ever feel there is more…? The masculine expression in economic pursuit has become so lost in “doing” that he has forgotten to ask “what is worth doing”? This is not about being “anti-business”, this is about alignment of truths…

Unlocking The Celebration Of Man

Our men are good. Our men do good. Can we focus on what our men have to offer? Can we focus on the goodness of man? Unlocking and unleashing the power of man can be everything.

Can we look at man and celebrate his achievements, his aspirations and his prowess? Can we gaze deeply in to the soul of man and feel his purity of intention.


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