The Illusion Of Separation

We have never been separated. Whilst we are different in so many ways, we are a mirror of the variance that is us that we cannot ‘see’ nor feel from the first person.

Our difference is our power. Our differences are what bond and unite us. Our differences are what allow us to be empowered.

Our ability to leverage each other’s strengths and aptitude is predicated upon our willingness to see beyond aesthetics and the superficial difference being perceived as a hindrance.

We are ‘separate’ so that we may come together in power. We are apart so that we may unite, bond and thrive in prowess.

We express indifference so that we may understand, know and feel each other from the perspective of wholeness. We are apart so that we may know that all that we require, are, have been and ever will be us within us.

To embrace this is to move in full wholeness. To live this truth is to be in the world complete. This removes the need for unhealthy codependency, a perception of inadequacy, low self-worth and victimhood.

When we realize deeply we are all we need to be as we are because of what we notice in others is actually held within ourselves we then become free to CHOOSE openly from inspiration, not desperation.

Now, we have healthy beings bonding, uniting, connecting, loving, feeling and merging in healthy, clear, sacred and whole union.

No longer are we living from fear and doubt but rather from presence, appreciation and profound gratitude. We have never been separate…

One is glad to be of service.

Image credit: Will Francis


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



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