The Balance In Relating

There truly is a balance when it comes to giving and receiving in relationship. There is a rapidly accelerated moment towards self-love, self-acceptance, prioritizing one’s needs and values and connecting fully to self.

Whilst this movement towards deeper connection to self is vital it can also be distorted if left unchecked. We receive so much when we give.

We live in an individualistic society, somewhat hyper selfish also. A competitive landscape where a winner takes all attitude is promoted. Compassion, empathy and prioritizing others is often pushed to the side and seen as unhealthy.

Yes, it is IF we are prioritizing others from a codependent and disconnected place. If we are unhealthy in our posturing, reliant fully on others to give us a higher sense of self worth and are constantly asking others to satisfy our need for heightened self-worth and suffering if these ‘expectations’ driven by fear are not met.

If we are healthy within, care for who we are, know ourselves, derive a sense of self largely from self, are emotionally adept and fit and have an openness in heart and mind them prioritizing others becomes healthy and necessary in intimacy.

How we do this and why is what sets the scene. We are already disconnected as a humanity, we needn’t lose ourselves more by denying ourselves of giving fully from a healthy place.

We need closeness not distance now more than ever in our lives and relationships. Know your values and align your actions with this, if others are suffering be there in a healthy way. There is much to learn and gain from giving.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



Are You Struggling?

Are you living a double life? Are you committed to owning your truth? We learn from both struggles/challenge/“failure” and success/wins and the positive.
We hold in what is painful or appears to be weak. I share as much of my life as I can to inspire others to share more of themselves to and for themselves so that we cease to polarize and pretend we are not struggling.
To normalize challenge and pain and not put a facade on of “all is perfect in my world”.

To Deprive Ourselves Of Touch Is To Deprive The World Of Circulating Love

To deprive ourselves of intimate connection is to remain shrouded in the veil we wear to protect from an invisible force that separates us.

To lose touch with touch is to scream to consciousness that we are not worthy.

To isolate ourselves from the wonder of visceral contact with another is to isolate ourselves from our humanity.

The Truthful Gaze

It can be difficult to honor ourselves. Self-love and self-honoring haven’t been a priority for the collective. We have become more accustomed to obsessing as opposed to healthy honor and worship of others instead of ourselves.

What if we could use the act of HEALTHY worship of another to provide us with deep insight in to our own worth? What if the healthy, non-attached, compassionate, wise and cosmic worship of another allowed us to see our worthiness and value?

Where Do You Place Your Kindness?

Some of us find it easier to serve a global mission, donate blood, feed a starving village or be physically present at a natural disaster, rebuilding the homes, lives and social structures of others, then to be present to the intimate and immediate needs of a loved one…

Today’s Modern Warrior

In a world of dysmorphic alpha males that are attached to polarized and unhealthy expressive states of being, something needs to give… We tend to think that there are either alpha or beta males – firstly, this line of thinking is limiting (does alpha even truly exist???? And secondly, we have an opportunity to redefine what it means to be an ‘alpha’ male…

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