Step Into The Light

I spent most of my life living in the dark. Either pretending I had no shadow or only wanting to focus on my “good side”. And even now, when feeling extreme pressure or convenient I revert to that place. Whether it is a new year, decade, month or day. I am making a choice right here and right now. That choice is to stop polarizing and start embracing all of me, not just the convenient parts.

There is light and dark in all of us. We live in contrast. We like to avoid what is perceived as ugly, “not good” or bad. We are shamed in to only presenting the best of us. This is unrealistic and unattainable.

So I choose to thrive in responsibility and ownership of all of me. I choose to release my attachment to the habits that have distanced me from embracing my woman, empowering my voice, and the pursuit and embodiment of my dreams, truth and power. I have lived most of my life in anger, frustration, agitation, have lacked compassion and have forgotten my worth.

I have acted out of fear of being rejected, abandoned or being seen. Because of this, I have reacted from pain. I have presented myself from a place of facade – pretending to be someone I am not to appease, fit in, stand out or dominate.

Yes, I have made many deep and visceral changes the last many years and still, these are parts of me arise within me at times. Deny them? No. Repress them? What is the point? Embrace them? Yes, why not? They are a part of who I have been. My relationship with them has and is shifting. This is important to recognize.

Who we are today is not necessarily who we were AND who we are today is also because (at least in part) of who we were. So, for me, I am choosing to embrace all the parts that make me, well me. All the parts that I have neglected and abandoned. All the parts that have taught me something about my purpose, my pleasure and my passions.

My commitment to me, the cosmos and you is to show up as I am as often as possible. To forgive, yet be accountable to my standards. To soften when needed, open my heart, yet be fierce in who I am at my core. For me, my beloved and all of humanity. I thank you for you and honour you in all of the ways.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



The Warrior Within

Life can be daunting, life can be overwhelming, life can appear so big! The ‘bigness’ can be f*****g scary!

We ‘think’ that we are not as good as why we are. We devalue ourselves, we minimize our power, we place ourselves lower than what we are.

How do we come in to a space of self-reverence? Where we know our power and we needn’t question our abilities when it comes to expressing our truth?

What Men Truly Desire From Women

I recall in my relationships I once demanded a great deal but wasn’t prepared to give. I was arrogant, entitled, and stubborn. This caused me to not only lack common relationship sense, but it also placed me spaces of resentment, projection, and blame.

Signs You Are In Your Shadow Masculine

This energy, which applies to both men and women is less about gender and more about expression in this specific context. We talk about these traits in “masculine” terms because they are associated with that contrasted energetic expression. We can use other terms such as: “go energy” or “do energy”. These energies are vital for us but when extreme like anything becomes unhealthy.

To Deprive Ourselves Of Touch Is To Deprive The World Of Circulating Love

To deprive ourselves of intimate connection is to remain shrouded in the veil we wear to protect from an invisible force that separates us.

To lose touch with touch is to scream to consciousness that we are not worthy.

To isolate ourselves from the wonder of visceral contact with another is to isolate ourselves from our humanity.

Repressing Longings Hurts Others

When we repress our deep longings, we hurt others.

Importantly, we hurt and deny ourselves of pleasure and joy. When we do this, we limit our expression and the quality of relationships we can receive in our lives.


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