Signs You Are In Your Shadow Masculine
Craves power
Seeks excessive control and is oppressive
Objectifies women
Disregard the opinions or beliefs of others
Are excessively violent or abusive
Careless, volatile and ruthless
Discriminate against difference – ex. Sexist
Vain and arrogant with narcissistic tendencies
Greedy – value materialism over substance in relationships
Self-centered and taking in relationship – what’s in it for me attitude
Avoidant of intimacy
Adrenaline junkie
Lacks meaningful friendships
Over-comparison to others
Driven by shame and guilt
Never enough attitude
This energy, which applies to both men and women is less about gender and more about expression in this specific context. We talk about these traits in “masculine” terms because they are associated with that contrasted energetic expression. We can use other terms such as: “go energy” or “do energy”. These energies are vital for us but when extreme like anything becomes unhealthy.
Shadow energy is an energy that is consumed with extremes and resides within us when we feel hyper threatened, overly fearful, cannot self regulate and feel constantly in danger. Some may retract from the world, some may lash out.
The opportunity when behaving in any extreme is for us to shift. The extreme within us is actually guiding us towards something more balanced. As part of nature, we thrive in homeostasis. We seek this and it seeks us.
As we are complex beings, this homeostasis seeks us in such a way that may appear painful or intense. Moving through this develops our character, cultivates resilience and allows us to expand our full selves.
It’s not pleasant nor is it sustainable to behave in these ways. We push people away and densify further our tensile behaviors. We will generally pick up these ways of being as something that is our norm during our developmental years.
We are not wrong for being this way. We are generally a product of our environment – fear, volatility, societal values and more. Shaming men or others for this won’t help. Keeping each other accountable, however, is necessary. Where have you perhaps expressed any of these traits in your life? I know I have… and many of them.
One is glad to be of service.
STEFANOS SIFANDOS
Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author
STEFANOS SIFANDOS
Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author
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