Redefining Male Presence & Power

Redefining Male Presence & Power

What if for one moment we chose to turn our history on its head? What if for one moment we observed life from a place of ‘natural need’? What if we ceased to reduce our behaviours to cultural constructs and began to live openly in accordance with our authentic nature?

What would life then look like, not just for men, but for all of our human and Earth family? When we speak to redefining ‘maleness’, what we are essentially allowing is a freedom in expression that is not constrained to the limiting parameters that defines masculinity and what it means to be a man in our Western world.

Allowing

We redefine male presence and power by allowing men to communicate through their healthy emotions and not abhorrence, violence, misconduct or suppression. I do not care if being present to what is occurring within and owning that appears weak to the masses – it is not. It is authentic and connected power. If we continue to care what the intoxicated status quo think they think, we will continue to suffer and repulse our own being.

By providing them an outlet, a safety and a freedom that it is not unmanly to be, that it is not unmanly to feel and that it is not unmanly to be present to the pain, fear and doubt that often riddles us as it does every human being.

Transmuting Pain

When we as a collective transmute our standards pertaining to how we analyse self, understand self, connect to self, process, express, communicate, and be with self and others we grow, we evolve – we feel equity, connection, bonding and we transcend disconnect and dissonance and move in to love.

Men have been repressed for a great deal of time with respect to how they are allowed (systemically and perpetually) to view the world, how they feel and how they express. It has become demoralising to be anything less than autocratic, overpowering, silent in suffering and weak in posture.

Collective Values

This collective value set perpetuated by the very system that needs transformation (unhealthy patriarchy) needs to shift. It can and will only shift when we decide as a collective that it is ok for men to cry, it is ok for men to feel, to be vulnerable, to share and not isolate.

This may sound simple (in part, it is), but there are layers and complexity to this that require us to allow, to be open to the challenges that will arise from ‘change’.

Bonding – Connecting – Loving

Our natural states as humans is to bond and to connect, to feel significant and to experience ‘love’. And to do and embody this in healthy manners, not toxic or distorted ways.

It begins with men opening – opening their hearts and being present to whatever is presenting, to not deny, repress, ignore and pretend. Courage is exemplified through openness in vulnerability, not through hiding and pretending. This compounds, festers, becomes toxic and destroys both intra and interpersonal relationships.

Time to transform… Time to grow… Time to shift… The time is now…

One is always glad to be of service.

STEFANOS SIFANDOS

Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author