Own All Of You

I have not always been confident in who I am, in my body, mind and heart. I have doubted, felt deeply intense fear and lost my self in negative and harmful actions towards myself and others. I have not been connected to my body and have carried shame in this area, alongside my thoughts and emotions.

Much of this has come from unresolved stuff that I wouldn’t or couldn’t face. Growing up in volatility, violence and judgement caused me to be passive and then later in life outwardly aggressive. I had little emotional mastery and I was in misery most of the time.

I wanted to love life, but I was hurting inside. I smiled so often, yet felt broken within. I wanted to be “perfect”, but struggled to even see myself. I struggled to deal with rejection because I was rejecting my own dharma, purpose and truth.

I have been compounded by the weight of my harsh inner critic and I have betrayed myself by living in the darkness of my shadows. I have felt isolated and I have felt deep shame that has brought me to the verge of death many times.

I have claimed to be okay and strong when inside I was weak and screaming for help. I wanted attention in unhealthy ways and needed to be witnessed in healthy ways. I couldn’t because I could see my value. I haven’t always been strong for others or myself.

I haven’t always been in integrity, yet when I have chosen to go deeper into my wounding, trauma, fears and pain I have grown and I have seen a different me. Can you relate to any of this? You are not alone. We are in this together. Let’s demystify this pain. So many of us feel hurt and pain. It’s the unresolved stuff that limits us and constricts our spirit.

Don’t be that person that is never seen, you can shine and you can also contract when you need to. Your shadow is just as important as your light. It’s HOW we relate to the “unwanted” and “ugly” parts of ourselves that matter most.

Own all of you and free all of you. This is your gift – to feel all of your pain, your sorrow and your joy. Yes, our challenges make us stronger and yes, we need support.

Sending you all love and the power to be the fullness of you.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author




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Better OUT than IN

My beautiful grandmother would tell me to never hold farts in. In Italian, she would say often “Always out, never in.” I remember this distinctly, and then she would burp and I would laugh hysterically. She was the best! I then would run around farting and get excited to go to the toilet haha! I now often think about the real life implications of ‘out’.

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In this life I have been blessed to transform many times over. There have been times where I have delved deep in to my own self solo and in isolation. There have been times when I have been deeply supported by other brothers. And there have been times where I have been guided by the divine presence of the feminine.

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When we see the shadow in another and we embrace this shadow, appreciate this shadow, revere this shadow and embrace this shadow we cease to stumble, we cease to polarise and we cease to ‘lose’ in life…

Redefining Male Presence & Power

What if for a moment we chose to turn history on its head? What if we observed life from a place of ‘natural need’ and ceased to reduce our behaviours to cultural constructs and began to live openly in accordance with our authentic nature…?

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