Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

Our Focus Becomes Our Greatest Super Power

Imagine for a moment that if what you chose to focus on became your absolute reality in that moment? Remain with me for a moment here please. Imagine your thoughts were able to master your body’s faculties – the manner in which you physiologically responded to life – they can.

We become angry, frustrated, in pain, we feel the depths of sorrow. Emotionally we are perturbed and disturbed by this. We begin to shut down, become neurally tensile, feel disconnected and hyper-focus on this extension of ourselves that is suffering.

Whilst there is value in this (to learn from, grow and transmute what does not serve through context, reference and attention), to remain here for too long is not healthy. To have stress hormones circulating our bodies perpetually and constantly is not healthy for our own vitality and mental state. There is another way.

We have the capacity to be more connected to our thoughts, emotions and mindset than we may know. If we feel completely disconnected, we have an opportunity to go into it in a more objective and neutral way. Yes, there are times when the trauma or the fear is a little too much, here we may need a more supportive and calculated approach.

Now, in these highly strung or tensile moments we can just breathe to regain mastery of our physiology. Our bodies and minds work as one, it is just that we are generally quite disconnected from the intimacy of this connection and wholeness that exists within us.

When we breathe purposefully and deliberately we engage fully our entire being. When we take our minds to a place that is more connected and an internal place where we actually focus on what is working in life or something that inspires us profoundly we literally shift that deep discomfort we feel in our bodies.

When our bodies are then relaxed, without such tension, we not only think in a more creative and expansive manner – we are able to create harmony in our thought patterns, balance in our expressions and clarity in our movement. Our relationships function from a place of openness and transparency as opposed to restriction, underlying shadow elements and pain.

We project less, literally are freer in our bodies and are able to express with authenticity and prowess. We are present to the pain, yet not controlled, nor paralysed by it. This is a power we can all tap in to. We must understand this intimate connection between mind and body – body and mind. It truly is one in the same.

The fastest way to change our state is to change our physical environment. However, this can also apply to our internal state of thought processes and cognitive focuses. Our focus can literally influence our emotional states of being. Perhaps choosing articulately what you choose to listen to within the chasms of your mind is the most freeing act you can engage in…

One is always glad to be of service.

 

Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker
Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker
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