Nurturing A Woman’s Heart

Be decisive in your choices

Be certain in your language

Carefully consider your options

Say what you intend to do and do what you say

Be playful in your gesture

Own who you are and live it

Make effort to know her needs

Be prepared to be challenged

Respect Mother Earth

Yes, this, of course, applies to all. 

Remember, our unresolved issues will be “tested”. We will be asked to be in our hearts and getting there can be very challenging particularly if we have experienced trauma, pain, volatility or a violent upbringing.

This can be true for many men… The request is to see that the beloved in your life is not only here to teach you, but to help you heal and be more present to your “stuff”. And of course, this applies in reverse also.

Where do you feel you could be more present to deepening or opening the heart of your beloved and in turn get to know more about you? For me, it is more profound layers of compassion and deepened empathy. Remember, others have a history of hurt that they now also find it difficult to give their hearts and trust again…

Compassion and empathy were very confusing emotions to hold for me and I know in my life a big part of my journey is knowing I can access those aspects of me and live in a healthy way. My surroundings, environments and loved ones will present postures and ways of being that will grant me the opportunity to them CHOOSE to express that.

We can either push our opportunities away or we can embrace them. Embracing them can be tough because often these very things we need to do can be the most difficult. And here is the hero’s journey of overcoming your past pain…

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



Boys To Men

Now more than ever we need REAL MEN. The rite of passage of man is so important. We miss a vital aspect of our intra- and interpersonal growth and expansion when we miss a legitimate rite of passage.

The word teenager was not commonly used before the 20th century. Why? Because, when we look at the path of man we can see a linefeed and distinct path of either rapid growth or rapid decline.

Men, Just LISTEN, Don’t Fix

As men, we yearn to fix, it feels like an accomplishment, like we have conquered the challenge. There is more to this though. There are times when the situation, perceived problem or pain does not require anything else but our presence.

We want to fix in order to feel useful, worthy or of value. I know I have in the past. We don’t realise that our own insecurities prevent us from going deeper with our loved ones. Our beloved at times simply wants to be seen and heard.

The Expansive Masculine

When my mother sent me some old pictures of when I was child, my heart opened and memories came flooding back to me. I saw an innocent little boy with a massive smile on his face.

Yet the happy times were outweighed massively by the sadness and fear I experienced. Overtime that little boy learned that closing down his heart was the best way to protect himself. Then he grew up to be a man that was shut down because of a his pain.

Are You Too Obsessed With Self-Love?

We needn’t be perfection in order to have a healthy relationship because at our core we are already perfection, we have forgotten this. We needn’t be FULLY healed of all of our past trauma to be in a healthy relationship. We need to be WILLING, clear, communicative and open-hearted.

The Greatness Within

We are all intrinsically ‘good’. We are all born with ‘heart’. There is no conceivable way we are born to destroy. Destruction, death, ‘the perceived end’ is not a construct directed by us, but rather something organic that occurs as a natural extension of our existence. This enables us to be connected in a powerful way.


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