There it is. I said what basically we all do. We all place conditions on the way we care for others, okay, well the VAST majority of us do. I know I have & so what, where to from here? Are standards, ideals, values & conditions bad?

If your partner is physically or emotionally abusing you consistently should you remain in that situation with no indication of change because you wish to have ‘unconditional love’?

The question is can we be compassionate, love & care for others irrespective of how they behave & treat themselves, us or others? The answer is yes, it’s possible.

And, that does not mean we allow others to mistreat us either. there is a fine line to all of this. Knowing ourselves & carrying a deep level of self-worth is everything when it comes to relationships.

When you care about your well-being and LOVE who you are & what you offer the world, anything that dims that light takes away from you joy, ability to express & gifts you give the world.

What will you tolerate? How will you allow others to treat or mistreat you? There is truth at some level of broader awareness that how we allow others to treat us is in part a reflection of how we treat ourselves in some way, shape or form.

Work on you. Get clear on who you are & how you wish to be in this world. Then attract that by acting in accordance with that. If you allow others to steal from you because you have a blood connection & your parents have always said respect your family, you won’t experience abundance and ease in your life because you’re perpetuating & accepting what you don’t deserve.

Unless you choose to prop yourself up on a mountain top and disengage from the world, then the exchange of love at this level and plain will be conditional. You have preferences and non-negotiables.

Exert them in an assertive and compassionate way. Be that person who believes in themselves & be that person who knows what they want. The only way to transcend any form of conditionality is to move through it. Embrace it, own it, be it in the world.

The question then begs to be asked, if any-THING (including love) is perceived to be conditional is it true & real love? Share your thoughts below ??

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Cover image by the amazing French artist and psychologist Cyril Rolando

STEFANOS SIFANDOS

Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author