Holding Your Partner Through Moon Cycles

Supporting, seeing and holding our women during a sacred time of their lives that symbolises so much wisdom and depth is critical. This is a great time of reflection and process, where we get to celebrate life creation and be present to this.

Our part is to hold, to witness, to ask what is needed and how it is needed. A time to revere, respect and trust. To be ourselves and to show up fuller and take the essence of this love into all other times also. This can be deep teaching of us as men.

Signifying wisdom, intuition, birth, death, reincarnation, and a deeper spiritual connection to the cosmos. Moon cycles are similar to the cycle of a seed: the seed grows into a flower, then blooms and then dies. This is part of a process. Not shaming, minimizing or forgetting the value of this process is imperative.

Normalizing this journey defines (in part) not only our healthy masculinity but also our profound connection to life, nature and our intertwined futures. By being supportive during a time where some women are in deep reflection, some are in pain, some are not, some differ in the “accustomed to” expression and some not; we are choosing to be unwavering and stable, irrespective of what is unraveling before us.

It is this choice and habitual action to be vertical and present that contributes to the quality of our masculinity. It also demonstrates reliance and selfless love. We often push away what we don’t understand and as men, we struggle to connect to the way a woman’s body functions. Welcoming the unknown into our lives by offering our presence diffuses this confusion.

In ancient cultures, the period cycle was deeply respected and revered and as men when we embrace this reciprocal contribution to life, we all grow together. Learning to love a woman’s body during menstruation is about realizing that the feminine is a beautiful cyclical being. This is one of the most charming and magnetic things about being female. The body, mind and emotions are constantly ebbing and flowing in this cosmic dance that we as men get to witness.

The invitation is to celebrate this time of a woman’s life and embrace this cycle of life.

One is glad to be of service.


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author


Relational Alchemist, Speaker & Author



Are You Struggling?

Are you living a double life? Are you committed to owning your truth? We learn from both struggles/challenge/“failure” and success/wins and the positive.
We hold in what is painful or appears to be weak. I share as much of my life as I can to inspire others to share more of themselves to and for themselves so that we cease to polarize and pretend we are not struggling.
To normalize challenge and pain and not put a facade on of “all is perfect in my world”.

Tapping Into Your Feminine Expression

Focus on your core essence of masculinity. Strengthen your healthy masculine expression and posture. Do this and your feminine expression will reveal itself as required when relevant.
This can be a sensitive subject… Women and men are different – culturally, biologically, hormonally. We also share so many similarities in terms of the full spectrum of the human experience. We are more the same than we are different, however, we need to celebrate both and also account for the difference.

Transference – How Good Are You At It?

Attempting to understand this type of behaviour according to a superficial or face value view will only confuse us and distance us form ourselves and our loved ones…

The Density Of Anger

I can tell you about the physiological effects that excess anger and frustration has on the body. I can tell you how excess stress hormones released throughout the body due to a cognitive spotlight focus of anger damages our neurones.

I can tell you about the feeling of not being in control and how longterm, this affects negatively our sense of self and understanding of who we are. I can tell you that the less we self-regulate the more we have that feeling of not being in control of the direction of our internal monologue, stories we feel ourselves and pain we feel.

The Heavier the Rock, The Lighter the Mind

And… Not always. Without, what I call the practice of ‘Vertical Masculine Presence’ as men we can become lost in our movement through the world. This model of ‘Vertical Masculine Presence’ consists of 6 key practices. Let’s unpack them!

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