Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

Gender Reverence

When we choose to see, feel and interact beyond the normative lens of segregation we grow. This does not mean we do not value difference – biological, social, cultural, behavioural, relational, neurological, hormonal, etc. It means though, that we do not discriminate, bias towards or subjugate on prima-facie value based on obvious or subtle physical or ideological differences.

We do not hate or are abhorrent towards others because they are just ‘different’ to us. Gender (amongst many other aspects of being human) has been a massive contention in our society for millennia. Over the thousands of years of ‘evolved’ and ‘civilised’ culture we have oscillated between gender supremacy. Largely remaining in extreme expressions of maleness that have been associated with unhealthy expressions of masculinity.

This means that we, as a greater collective have curated and been made to follow the principles of a dominant select few that have reigned extreme ruling over society. These patriarchal and non-equitable systems have expressed extremity at every turn, not only limiting those they are pressing but also their own being with the same hand and action.

There has been no real upside to this (bar the fact that we have experienced the deep contrast that has brought us to where we are). The downside has been suppression, oppression, discrimination, judgment, fear-laden action and we have been lead with heavy hands.

Any person or group that has resembled some form of familiarity with the ruling class of each cultural period has been cut some slack in terms of not being ostracised massively, nevertheless there has been separation. When we choose to revere our humanity, we settle in to a space of respect, appreciation and recognition of the value that others bring to us.

How can we see others without tainting them with negativity or a ‘less than’ attitude just because of their ‘difference’? How have we come to value (systemically, unconsciously and overtly) contrasted values without recognising the values that other groups and individuals bring to the party…? This is a devolving state of being that we have been immersed in for too long.

We must open our hearts, forgive (ourselves, others, the past, the now, the future), hold deep compassion, present expansive minds, collaborate, create and allow a new vision to unfold and commence – one that is inclusive, values difference and celebrates the power within us all. But how can we forget the pain of the past and present? How can we not be tired constantly having to fight the oppressive forces that are entrenched in our societies? 

We are tired, men are tired of having to meet a normative perception that is not natural. Women are tired of being treated in ways that are unfair, not healthy, disconnected and cruel. People are tired of not being seen, because we are living in a society that segregates and limits. How long can we maintain this facade, this extreme expression?

We are suffering and limiting ourselves. Those that are fearful of change are entrenched and locked down in their ways. They are unwilling to shift the paradigm, systemically stuck in fear and a perception of loss. This mindset will not unlock a new paradigm but rather perpetuate the old and useless.

I am not requesting we lose ourselves in this process. Yes, parts of us that are fear based must dissipate, but the best of who we are may remain and expand. I am asking that we redefine ourselves, how we view each other, ourselves, our humanity, our past, our current behaviours, attitudes, models of reality and our future.

This will require our complete attention, an overhaul of how we view the world. Those scared to lose their power will remain in fear, perpetuate and close more than just their power. It needn’t be ‘a this or that’ scenario. Shifting ideologies does not equate to losing our minds. It can mean enhancement, betterment and societal evolution.

When we live in contrasted balance and at peace and equilibrium with who we are, we become harmonised and essentially we are saving ourselves from ourselves…

One is always glad to be of service.

Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker
Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

How Repressed Trauma Is Expressed

It’s the stuff that we choose to forget because it’s too painful to remember. Too difficult to face. What we must understand is that these fears and pains that we shove deep down and choose to forget are still there itching and scraping to be heard.

Transcending Into The Ethereal in Sacred Union

Intimate sexual union is more about harmonizing the energetic poles between two beings than it is about reaching a particular “state”. The greatest “mistake” we make though is thinking that harmonization is a dulling down of our polarities or expression in order to be in some type of mundane state or balance… Quite the contrary.

Healing the Goddess Wound

Healing the goddess wound is going to require effort from all of us. The goddess was once revered. Time to bring this honoring back. What is the goddess wound? It is the suppression of the divine potential and value of the feminine expressive that we all require in order to live harmoniously and flourish sexually, socially, relationally and technologically.

The Domestication Of Man

Our time to excel in a way we have not before is here. We are being asked by our higher selves to forge a version of man that rises above the chaotic nature of our time and expand in consciousness.

The Holding Through Tears – An Open Share

“As I sit here today, contemplating, feeling the feels, slightly melancholic, yet optimistic and clear – allowing myself to be with where I am I reflect deeply on the temporal nature of ‘things’ and how they affect us and can I come back to holding self? There is great joy in feeling fully and not bypassing parts of self. It leads to greater overall happiness and connection.

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