Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

Expressive Connection

We yearn, we wish, we feel, we ‘know’, we dream, we envision, we care, we want, we desire, we need – yet we refrain. We hold back, we retract, we restrict, we constrict and we live in and from unconscious and patterned fears. Why?

For the most part we do not ‘know’ any different, any better and we are afraid to experience the unfamiliar. We are afraid to venture in to the unknown. The unknown scares us, so we refrain from expressing our inner most deepest truths. We hold back from giving ourselves because the fear of being hurt is overwhelming.

We live a mediocre, disconnected life. A life that does not venture in to what matters. We cease to challenge ourselves and the oppressive force of silencing our authentic nature debilitates our capacity to connect meaningfully and lovingly.

This is sad. There are so many beautiful souls who wish to give and receive openly and in transparent revealing and vulnerability. How can we give and allow ourselves to feel fully the love and sincere care of another if we are stuck in a perpetual cycle of pain, suffering and repetitive fear? We cannot.

We limit the quality of our life experiences, we find ourselves pulling back from life, not giving our all and not being present to life. Life becomes dull, distant and we find ourselves lacking conscious relationships and intimate connections. Our ability to be vulnerable lessens, therefore, limiting our sharing with those we care about.

There is however an opportunity to ‘reverse’ all of this and to live an abundant life of sharing, being, connecting and loving. A life that is worthy of embodiment, embracement and connection. When we realise our worth, when we realise our empowered ability to break patterns of fear and limitations and leap in to a space of sacred union with self – we begin to embody truthful transformation.

Here, we learn to give to others, to unite differently. From a healthy place of being. In this state we are free from the limitations of the past, we actively choose to release pain, fear and the burden of not being enough. We grow with challenge and we welcome the unknown. Here, in this space the quality of our intimate connections deepen and our ability to love expands.

Our heart opens and it becomes about authentic expression, life becomes about service, non-attached service and trust. We express in order to feel. We express because it is the ‘right’ thing to do. We are not attached to an outcome. Today, tomorrow and for the rest of your life, if you feel some-THING within, express and be not attached to how another may respond but rather, speak, embody and be because it serves your highest truth. This is evolution – this is expansion.

One is always glad to be of service.

Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker
Stef Sifandos
Relational Alchemist, Community Builder & Changemaker

Understanding Trauma

Trauma is not simple. We can’t compare one’s trauma to another’s. “I wasn’t sexually abused or tortured, therefore I shouldn’t be distressed”. One’s trauma is not “worse” than someone else’s. And it’s difficult as we place a hierarchy on certain experiences. We must break away from comparing and observe our own experiences.

Are You Too Obsessed With Self-Love?

We needn’t be perfection in order to have a healthy relationship because at our core we are already perfection, we have forgotten this. We needn’t be FULLY healed of all of our past trauma to be in a healthy relationship. We need to be WILLING, clear, communicative and open-hearted.

Debunking 5 Myths Around Being a Man

Whilst there are many ideas around what it means to be masculine and what it means to be a man in today’s world, many of them are either based on outdated cultural norms or are distorted and unrealistic. Why? Because, we are placing far too much emphasis on what man ‘should’ be in an idealistic sense and not actually placing attention on the gifts of man.

We Are Not Weakened In Luxury And Comfort

Men, YES… you can be in this world of luxury and comfort and not be softened and weakened by it.

There is nothing intrinsically wrong with luxury and ease in life. In fact, it is something we all naturally pursue with zest. However, too much of it can make us weak, can hinder our ability to live an authentic life, where we abiding by some of our natural states.

The Place Beyond Knowing

There is a place – a space that occupies the sub structures of our minds that resides beyond the conscious self.

This place is what we do not know, what we are not aware of and what is not familiar.

It is here in this place where there is so much that we know, yet are unaware of. Here, there is a story being constructed that we are architecting, it has no idea.

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